To continue with this theme of sexual assault, this post through one gentleman’s perspective will now address rape. Like any other word in humanity, some will alter its meaning over time. This poses quite a dilemma on what we classify as rape. More importantly though, rape is not only an act that defies everything a gentleman stands for, but it is also a stain against humanity.
What exactly can we consider as rape? On one hand, you have a radical interpretation where rape solely applies to women. For this interpretation, not only does rape apply to women, but what falls under rape is quite alarming. Whenever any male inserts an object or penis into a vagina (PIV), this defines rape. Excuse me for a moment as I pick up my jaw, which is now resting on the floor. For those with this radical view, intercourse is an act that oppresses women, because she may think she wants sex, but naturally does not. What???
Apparently, to those with this view, women are like mindless animals, incapable of making their own decisions.
Apart from this idea of penetration being rape, if a male is in a higher social or economic position and has consensual sex with a woman, it is rape. How is this possible? Well, if a man holds this position and feels entitled to have sex when he wants, he in fact has power over others. By acting out this superior position upon someone who does not have a similar social, personal, cognitive, economic, or political power, privilege, and sense of entitlement—he in effect is committing the act of rape. Apparently, the woman is not equipped on a subconscious level, to object to the sexual act(s). The woman confines herself with her own subconscious inferiority.
Once again, this classifies women as mindless animals. So, although the act is taking place with their consent, they subconsciously feel so inferior, they cannot refuse the act even though they may want to. I don’t buy this concept of women being mindless animals…I just don’t.
As you can see, that interpretation is dangerous. Imagine a man who owns a company with 500 employees. Should he receive the labeling of a rapist, after having consensual sex with a C-level executive, without ever expressing verbally or implying non-verbally, a sense of entitlement or superior position? Is it the male’s fault that a consensual act took place, where the female perceives such an inferiority complex; she cannot consciously refuse the continuation of a sexual act? This is dangerous to classify such a situation as rape.
On a more moderate level, Merriam-Webster defines rape as forcing someone to have sex with you, by using violence or the threat of violence. In other words, think of a roommate clearly aware of your lack of consent, yet proceeds regardless of the fact. Think of a guardian who deceitfully takes advantage of the bond with a family member, in a way to initiate sexual acts. The key with this moderate stance comes in the form of consent. When a person, whether male or female, proceeds when the other member genuinely refuses the sexual advances…this is rape. The vicious act of spiking their drink and having sex under this circumstance, where they are completely impaired…this is rape. It does not matter if it is a friend, stranger, etc. The act of consent was not present.
There are many other examples of encounters, which fall under this moderate view of rape, but the key is that it affects both males and females, but most importantly the lack of consent. To think rape only occurs with women is absurd. To classify any act of penetration as rape is not only broad and absurd, but also dangerous.
This brings us to the barest interpretation of rape. Through this perspective, people view rape only in instances where a woman is walking down a dark alley, and encounters a masked assailant. This concept of rape simply means the most vicious and brutal attempts. Unless a weapon is present and physical harm occurs on the victim, who is usually female, those with this perspective have a tough time believing a rape occurred. In my humble opinion, this interpretation is just as bad as the radical approach. This approach is too specific, whereas the first is far too broad.
Why is this topic important, when it comes to understanding rape and the changes of its definition? Rape is very real, for males and females. We need to protect and educate both young girls and boys with this subject. We cannot simply wait for a discussion after the fact, so it’s vital we remain proactive and not reactive. The rules are changing so much, it creates far too many gray areas. That in and of itself, is dangerous for both boys and girls.