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Stop airing out your dirty laundry online, whenever there is an issue in your relationship.

Social media has become a platform for couples, friends and all in between, to provide a personal look into their lives. There are several posts displaying the latest shopping spree, by well-known fashionistas. We have homemade chefs uploading their latest creation and fitness gurus sharing helpful nutritional tips, etc. However, in between these gems, we have folks who share a little too much. These people use social media as a platform to expose the drama existing in their relationship.

Today, it seems many don’t believe in keeping the drama of their relationship—in the relationship. As opposed to handling things privately, Facebook, Instagram and Twitter, have become the only means in releasing one’s frustration. There once was a time we could talk things out as mature folks, but today, talking it out means posting insulting comments online, with hopes complete strangers and others, become part of the show. Why has it become so easy for people to air out their dirty laundry online?

In case you need an example…picture a couple who is currently experiencing a rough patch in their relationship, where they decided a break is necessary. Now imagine the guy decides to post a photo on Twitter or Instagram, with a photoshopped penis inserted inside the mouth of his ex-girlfriend, with the caption, “These H*es Ain’t Loyal.”

As a logical person, even I may snicker a bit but the conclusion will always be the same…why would he do this? What will this solve? Will the reaction from complete strangers, fix whatever is wrong in the relationship? How is this mature and what man considers this irrational response, as something a man should do?

Your laundry is your own. If things turn sour and you feel it is necessary gaining the input of others, seek out someone you both mutually respect. Social media surely is not that person. The sign of a strong-minded individual is one who does not seek a boost in his or her ego, by shaming someone else. That is the sign of weakness. Social media is a place where your thoughts remain FOREVER. You may be upset now, but within hours, the feeling disappears. However, even though you can delete the post(s) from your account, it remains on the internet forever.

This behavior is not becoming of a gentleman or lady. Through one gentleman’s perspective, we should correct those who commit such acts. By doing so, it makes them become fully aware, that the action is a silly one. If they continue, you at least know you’ve tried to correct the immature behavior.

You can’t play ignorant a second, fourth or eighth time, once a prior correction took place. If you commit an act and no one made you aware of right versus wrong, I can understand why the action may repeat. However, to have the act checked and corrected, but repeated nonetheless…well, that shows the sign of someone who is well aware of their actions.

We are sometimes fully aware of differences between right and wrong, without the input of others. There are those who simply proceed regardless of the clear distinctions. When people air their dirty laundry online, there’s perhaps a 100% chance they know the action is an incorrect one, but due to the feeling now…they simply do not care. Furthermore, this is why I advocate reflecting, before making a response to any situation.

You may not regret it now, but you will tomorrow. I’ve seen various individuals delete an irrational post after a few minutes of its existence online, only to apologize afterwards. You can easily avoid such an issue by first reflecting, before hitting the post or tweet button. A boy and girl acts, and may think of consequences later. A gentleman and lady, well, they will more often than not, think before making a move.