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To continue with this theme of sexual assault, this post through One Gentleman’s Perspective will now address the interpretation of rape. Like any other word in humanity, some will alter its meaning over time. 

This poses quite a dilemma on the classification of rape. More importantly though, rape is not only an act that defies everything a gentleman stands for, but it is also a stain against humanity.

What exactly can we consider as rape? On one hand, you have a radical interpretation where rape solely applies to women.

For this interpretation, rape only applies to women, but what falls under rape is quite alarming. In this example, rape is whenever a male inserts an object or penis into a vagina (PIV).

I am at a loss for words here.  For those with this radical view, intercourse is an act that oppresses women, because she may think she wants sex, but naturally does not. How did they arrive to such an irrational conclusion?

Apparently, to those with this view, women are like mindless animals, incapable of making their own decisions.

Apart from this idea of penetration being rape, if a male is in a higher social or economic position and has consensual sex with a woman, this too falls under the classification of rape.

How is this possible?

Well, if a man holds this position, he innately feels entitled to have sex whenever he wants. Therefore, he in fact has power over others.

By acting out this superior position upon someone who does not have a similar social, personal, cognitive, economic, or political power, privilege, and sense of entitlement—he in effect is committing the act of rape.

Apparently, the woman is not equipped on a subconscious level to object to the sexual act(s). In short, advocates of this interpretation, believe that women are confining themselves within their own subconscious inferiority.

Once again, this classifies women as mindless animals. Although the act is taking place with their consent, they subconsciously feel so inferior, they cannot refuse the act even though they may want to.

I do not buy this concept of women being mindless animals. I refuse to view women as grown children.

As you can see, that interpretation is dangerous. Imagine a man who owns a company with 500 employees.

Should he receive the labeling of a rapist, after having consensual sex with a C-level executive, without ever expressing verbally or implying non-verbally, a sense of entitlement or superior position?

Is it the male’s fault that a consensual act took place, where the female perceives such an inferiority complex; she cannot consciously reject the sexual act? I consider this interpretation as extremely problematic.

On a more moderate level, Merriam-Webster defines rape as forcing someone to have sex with you, by using violence or the threat of violence.

in other words, think of a roommate clearly aware of your lack of consent, yet proceeds regardless of the fact.

Think of a guardian who deceitfully takes advantage of the bond with a family member, in a way to initiate sexual acts. The key with this moderate stance comes in the form of consent.

When a person, whether male or female, proceeds when the other member clearly refuses the sexual advances…this is rape.

The vicious act of spiking their drink and having sex under this circumstance, where they are completely impaired…this is rape. It does not matter if it is a friend, stranger, etc. The act of consent was not present.

There are many other examples of encounters, which fall under this moderate view of rape. The key is that it is absent of consent and most importantly, affects both males and females.

To think rape only occurs with women is absurd. To classify any act of penetration as rape is not only broad and absurd, but also dangerous.

This brings us to the barest interpretation of rape. Through this perspective, people view rape only in instances where a woman is walking down a dark alley, and encounters a masked assailant. This concept of rape simply means the most vicious and brutal attempts.

Unless a weapon is present and physical harm occurs on the victim, who is usually female, those with this perspective have a tough time believing a rape occurred.

In my humble opinion, this interpretation is just as problematic as the radical approach. This approach is too specific, whereas the first is far too broad.

Why is this topic important, when it comes to understanding rape and the changes of its definition? Rape is quite real, for males and females. We need to protect and educate both young girls and boys with this subject.

We cannot simply wait for a discussion after the fact. It is vital that we remain proactive, as opposed to taking a reactive position.

The rules are changing so rapidly, it creates far too many gray areas. That in and of itself, is dangerous for both boys and girls.