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My last blog was in June, and the last encounter with Instagram was some time last week. For everyone who has enjoyed One Gentleman’s Perspective, please forgive this delayed post. I honestly was not aware many find my posts interesting, but you know what you know and don’t what you don’t.
In other words, unless someone provides feedback, I would not be aware, so thank you all sincerely for the positive acknowledgement. I am truly humbled and appreciative. There are many blogs online, and among them all, you have decided to follow along with my journey. Thank you.
Where did all the good men go?
I want to address something I have heard in the past, as well as through current conversations, whenever my relationship comes up. I am exaggerating of course, but if we go by the belief of countless women, I think I am perhaps the last good man alive. Here is the problem with this assessment…it is 100% inaccurate.
I will explain as best as possible, through One Gentleman’s Perspective, where the good men have all gone.
So, where are they? Where have all the good men gone? They are right in front of you. I know, it sounds weird, but not really. How could someone be right before your very eyes, and somehow never become noticed? The answer is far easier than you may think.
In today’s dating environment, many women are subconsciously looking for their Superman. They like to call these standards a preference, but if a male were to possess a comparable preference for women, we receive such labels as shallow, pig and even a jerk. I laugh at this because not only is it hypocritical, but it lacks logic.
But I digress.
You seek a top-tiered superhero like Superman, and yet your qualities are that of a D-List character like Matter-Eater Lad. Wait, who the heck is Matter-Eater Lad? Exactly.
I am not perfect by a long shot, but she saw something in me, where I was perfect for her. She was able to see both Clark Kent and Superman at the same time. However, many women overlook Superman, because the initial encounter was merely Clark Kent. Who wants Clark Kent, when Superman is waiting right around the corner?
The problem with this idea of overlooking Clark, because of your anticipation for Superman’s eventual arrival; you wait forever and ever and ever, until you eventually settle. This time, the person is far worse than Matter-Eater Lad. This time, he is The Buzz—a character who is the knockoff of a knockoff. You overlooked Clark, because you failed to realize he was truly Superman.
In essence, being with Clark in your eyes, well, it is settling. Now, since you have decided to wait for greener pastures, you actually ended up with someone where you genuinely did settle. How do you like them apples?
What is the point? Societal depictions of perfection…they do not exist. Set your own ideals and stop chalking up the guy who will be the greatest thing you have ever known, as not worthy of your time. What makes you worthy of his? Get off the high horse for a bit, and experience a dose of humility.
There is nothing wrong with having preferences. However, if you want a guy with six pack abs, glance in the mirror and tell me if you are a perfect 10. If he must earn seven figures annually, why are you on welfare? If he must be a well-traveled man, why have you never left your city? If he must respect you unconditionally, why do you refuse to respect yourself?
Sometimes we do not need statistics to prove a point; we can simply speak from experience. When you pay attention to the thoughts and experiences of others, there is no greater life lesson. We all want someone to love…it is biology. There are anomalies to this of course, but overall, we all want someone to love.
When we set unattainable preferences and refuse to embrace a sense of humility, we end up being that old lady or gent, surrounded by a thousand cats and no partner.
We are not perfect, yet for some reason, some women like to believe they possess no flaws whatsoever. Therefore, a partner is unworthy if he does not meet all items on her checklist. Continue extending that checklist, but add one more item to that list…kitty litter.
…to be continued
One Gentleman's Perspective 
Very interesting topic. It’s true. Sad that some women end up missing out on their Superman because they’re too busy focusing on that missing item on their checklist. Sort of like the story of a girl who went to her high school reunion and realized the guy she chose not to date because he didn’t have a car is now the CEO of a luxury cat company. Whomppp whomp
I wanted to leave some feedback and let you know I look forward to new entries on your blog. Keep doing what you do because there is plenty to be learned by others through your words.
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Thank you. It’s something you hear often really and I wanted to throw my perspective into the mix. Are they hard to find? There’s a better question to ask in my humble opinion. What energy are you pushing out, that seems to repel so-called good men? Self reflect first, and then assess the outside world.
That story about the high school reunion was rather funny. So many guys are overlooked for the weirdest reasons. But hey, they’ll eventually meet someone who will appreciate them. On the other hand, the girl will continue searching for her perfect specimen. I genuinely appreciate your kind words. I have a voice, and we should never undermine the strength of our own voice reaching others.
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PREACH, Errol, PREACH!!
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Lol. My wife read this and the nice guy entry and said, “Oh my gosh. I love this babe. The way you put words together. They were so good.” She mentioned hating that I ended yesterday’s entry so soon. However, I think a blog that’s too long will bore the reader, due to the many things they have to do, outside of reading your posts. She disagrees. Lol
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Lol! Hilarious. Gotta love that wife of yours! I do have my way with words sometimes. 🙂 I actually agree with both of you on the length of a post. I think there are people out there who will be so interested in what you have to say they will read it in its entirety because it’s so interesting. Then there are those who find it interesting, but tend to skim it for main points because they have busy lives and just don’t have the time. When I really have a lot to say about a topic (like my Public Toilet post), I will write until I get it all out. But, generally, I prefer not to write posts that are too extremely long for the same reasons you said. But I think you should have a mix of both because there are a variety of people out there. Trust me—there are plenty of people with a lot of time on their hands that love reading long articles, too. I say mix it up.
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As of late, I’m noticing the writing becoming longer than expected. The thoughts just come and by the time I complete, I review the word count and say, “How the heck did I write this much already.” Lol. She likes the new approach, but I’m still trying to be mindful of it. You’re correct though…there’s a time for both. I’ve also just realized I was using too many tags in my post, therefore going against what WordPress recommends to get page views. I’m slowly getting a better understanding how to weather this storm of blogging.
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