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When your partner commits a betrayal, the pain runs deep. I do not need to experience this kind of treachery, to understand the severity if it were to occur in my marriage. Common sense explains that the love she and I have, is enough for us to grasp the difficulty of experiencing an infidelity.
There seems to be a common theme today, where the other woman does something I find utterly disgusting.
I genuinely hope they are reading this post, because the gentleman gloves are about to come off for a bit. In fact, the objective side of me may disappear during this post.
If you were the other woman and completely unaware of an existing committed relationship, I am not addressing you in this post.
When you are the other woman and you become aware of the committed relationship, where you then take a sisterly approach and present the infidelity to the girlfriend or wife—I am not addressing you in this post.
When you are aware of the committed relationship, and he eventually calls off his fling with you, where you then become vindictive enough to rub the affair publicly, into the face of the wife or girlfriend—you are lower than the gum that somehow binds itself to the bottom of my shoe.
You are the speck of dust, which becomes attached to the gum that is now on bottom of my shoe.
Sounds harsh?
Not by a long shot.
In a general sense, when males participate in an affair with someone’s girlfriend or wife, they do not react in this manner when it dissolves.
So yes, I must specifically focus on females…one group of females to be exact. As a side note, leave the unreasonable labeling of sexism or misogyny at the door.
When you face reality and escape indoctrination, you will be amazed how certain words do not apply in all situations.
But I digress.
It is one thing to approach the wife or girlfriend and share the betrayal, because you were also kept in the dark. I commend this. It is one thing to call her up and say…
Caller: Is this Grace?
Receiver: Yes, this is she.
Caller: Are you somewhere private?
Receiver: What’s this about, and who are you again?
Caller: You don’t know me, but my name is Brittany. I met your husband in the gym and was completely unaware he was in a relationship, let alone married.
Receiver: You…you met my husband? Is this a joke?
Caller: Sadly, this is not a joke. With me unaware of the relationship, I know it will not numb your pain in any way. However, for the past three months, we’ve had sex on a number of occasions. I only discovered his marriage when someone in the gym saw us together, and asked why I was spending so much time with a married man. I was shocked so I confronted him…
Receiver: You…you most certainly have the wrong number. My husband would never…
Caller: He denied the marriage initially, but he finally admitted everything. Mrs. Winston, I had absolutely no idea he was in a relationship, but he is a horrible person if he would do such a thing to his wife. I have photo evidence if you believe this is a fabrication. We sext one another often during the week. I don’t know how long you’ve been married, but you deserve better than this. I am so sorry.
This, I can respect.
It is another to lash out irrationally because you noticed him with another other woman.
Other Woman 1: Wait a minute. Who the heck is this? You are cheating on your wife with me, but you are now cheating on me with this?
Other Woman 2: This? I have a name you know. He’s married?
Other Woman 1: Your name is irrelevant.
Husband: Look, it is over. We had fun while it lasted, but you were becoming too clingy.
Other Woman 1: If you think you can just use me and toss me aside, you have another thing coming.
Husband: What are you talking about? Did you think this was serious? Grow up. You knew exactly what this was, as much as I did.
Other Woman 1: (Sends out a Tweet) I just tweeted a little clip of our homemade sexscapade to your wife. I’m sure you will have a lot of explaining to do tonight, you jerk.
I cannot respect this second approach at all. The action is an incredibly sickening and selfish one.
I am not making up this story out of thin air. I just read a comparable story online today, and it repeats the same behavior to a tee. It is actually one amongst many.
I see it on television and film, which makes me question if the mediums are fueling this behavior with the public, or if the actions of the public, are fueling these mediums to highlight the behavior.
Whichever is at fault, I remain revolted by the behavior. We give these creatures a platform for committing bad behavior (media coverage), all the while dragging the girlfriend or wife through the mud. The icing on the cake for me is when these creatures say…
I am doing this because she deserves to know.
Really? Did you have that sense of sisterhood, when you were straddling him in the hotel room? Did you feel this way when he flew you to Paris for a weekend getaway?
You are not doing this from a sisterly approach. You are not using girl code. You are not trying to expose a cheating husband out of the kindness of your heart.
For that, I believe you are a devious; manipulative, horrible-minded, self-centered and a tragic case of a human being.
To think, you are smiling when you send out these tweets, text messages, phone calls or letters. Knowing that you take pride in embarrassing and emotionally harming another woman in this fashion, speaks volumes about your character…well, lack thereof.
Yes, what he did to his wife is disgusting. To betray your partner in such a way, especially with a wicked individual like yourself is horrendous.
However, your decision to react in this manner is vile, because you knew he was in a relationship. Interestingly, you had no urge to share the infidelity then.
You also believe his partner was unaware of the betrayal. To expose the betrayal later, as if you are doing so as a selfless act, shows the heartless nature of your entire existence.
If you are reading this and you have committed this action, come closer to the screen because I do not want the following words to shout. Instead, I want them to whisper softly in your ears as you go about your day.
Your entire existence has less value than roadkill, rotting on the side of the road. In your mind, this spiteful reveal brings joy. Because of this, I believe the very air you breathe offends humanity as a whole. In the wake of your cruel ways, you leave lives in turmoil.
Each tear a woman sheds because of your reveal, diminishes your worthiness as a human being. In other words, their tears possess more value than your entire life.
Similar to the criminals who give all Blacks a bad name, which I ostracize because I understand guilt by association; all women should ostracize and point out your vindictive behavior.
When there is an intent to harm others undeserving of this pain, it always bothered me.
In the event my words are not clear enough, because no one seems to check your bad behavior…you are everything that is wrong with humanity.
You are a cancer.
This goes against my usual routine of blogging, but I find this behavior repulsive. To reveal an affair is quite fine—to disclose an affair because you want to embarrass the wife or girlfriend maliciously, that is another thing entirely.
This is what I think about the behavior, but I genuinely want to understand yours. How do you feel about individuals who reveal an affair, not out of kindness, but to be malicious and harmful to the betrayed partner?
One Gentleman's Perspective 
Oh yes, good post! Vindictive other women, uhhgg! It’s bad enough to try and harm somebody’s marriage, but to then turn around and be spiteful towards the wife after the fact is really appalling. I see that a lot, too. Women can be very vengeful and they need to knock it off because it’s just ugly.
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IB, how do you always understand where I am coming from, without ever saying, “You didn’t say this ” or hurl irrational replies /terms in my direction based on an assumption? I would love to know.
“It’s bad enough to try and harm somebody’s marriage, but to then turn around and be spiteful towards the wife after the fact is really appalling.”
You get it. You understand exactly where I am coming from. You grasped through my actual words, that I was specifically addressing this one particular group for a reason. I asked my wife a similar question last night about reading/listening objectively versus the opposite. It does not matter if you need time to assess your response, but I would love to hear it. Thanks for actually reading my post, in the manner that you do. As always, it is a pleasure reading your replies
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First I thought…. hummmmm this sounds like criticizing a woman when the fault is on the man. He is the one who is married, so he is the one who has to keep his pants on.
But, I lso think that a married man is not a target. Meaning, married men or living in couple, should not interest us, woman. I’m not down with OPP 🙂
And the revenge is just the expression of the pain, and most of all of the pride that was hurt. Not the expression of “sisterhood”, you’re right.
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Why is it that you think giving full blame to the OW detracts blame from the man? The fault is on both and it is different. He is a lying, disloyal betrayer. She is an intrusive entitled little hypocrite who thinks she is worth something. Both are awful. I’m sure his wife will hold him to account behind closed doors but it’s not the OWs business is it? The OW is equally horrible in her actions and with even less cause. Most married people have at least some grievances (that’s life). But to deliberately destroy the marriage of a complete stranger? That takes some evil. There are married men who are worse, they’re called serial cheats. But being able to say “but he’s even worse”..what comfort does that give a tart in an affair? It’s playground bully tactics.
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@sossofresh
Thanks for taking the time to read and respond. I have not been on IG in some time, so I hope you are well.
Whenever I write, the headline and content occurs in such a way, I want you to experience a connection with the content. However, when the person responds, I would like for them to respond objectively, especially if they are going to say, “I disagree because…” I say this because reading with an opinion on what you “think/feel” is written, as opposed to reading what is actually there, will cause you to respond by arguing with something you created and not exactly what is written.
I am not saying you did this of course. I am merely explaining how one’s reaction on what they think I was saying, can create an avalanche of emotions when they reply.
I did not create this to criticize the “other” woman, and remove fault from the husband/boyfriend. I did not want to focus on any other subgroup of an affair, besides one. I created this to address specifically, women engaging with someone they know is in a relationship and having no issue doing so. When the guy calls it off, she vindictively throws the affair into the wife’s/girlfriend’s face. I am happy to read that you do not practice the concept of being with a man, currently in a relationship. That is awesome.
“And the revenge is just the expression of the pain, and most of all of the pride that was hurt. Not the expression of “sisterhood”, you’re right.”
Yes. The reveal in this exact example, has nothing to do with sisterhood. Thanks for understanding that angle of the post. It is the guy’s responsibility to keep his pants on…not the other woman. You are right again. Thanks again for reading.
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We miss you on IG 🙂
I believe in fidelity and I think that cheating is a sign of weakness. I had this discussion lately with a friend and it was interesting. That’s why your post questionned me.
The headline is important to capt the attention and it may cause some feelings that the content would modify. And that’s ok with me, sometimes I do it myself in my posts ;)).
Take care
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LoL. My blog posts are created sometimes weeks or months in advance, where they are scheduled for a specific day. I will check in to Instagram in a bit. I can understand your perspective, in regard to infidelity being a sign of one’s weakness. My headlines will usually do that. LoL. I genuinely hope you have been well.
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I wish you could send this to the “other woman” blah! She knew I was pregnant and he would tell her things like going to the hospital for false alarms etc. Sounds like the letter I wrote anonymously to her. Just to get out what was inside of me.
I hate when the other woman thinks she has some rights over the wife. So sick and sad. Thanks for sticking up for wives that have been profoundly wounded in this way. These types of men and women need to hear these things from men…sounds bad but I feel like men many times treat this issue passively…not all men, but a lot of men…and of course women have a lot to say about sisterhood and such.
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Lol. It is strange that someone would feel it is appropriate, to engage with someone in a relationship. Then again, people do what they want, when they want.
I remember the letter you are referring to. People like to commit “bad” deeds, but hate when someone points it out. LoL. I find that incredibly mind boggling.
“I hate when the other woman thinks she has some rights over the wife.”
Sadly, this occurs because the guy allows her to believe this, by engaging with her. In essence, he is delivering a sense of power to her, which belongs to his wife/girlfriend. The power transfer can be of a conscious (he lets her know directly) or subconscious nature (she draws this conclusion because he chose her to be unfaithful with).
It seems my message came across perfectly, because your reaction shows that I channeled the energy well to the “vindictive” individual. Thanks for sharing your insight and understanding where message was going, versus butchering the post to suit a subjective response. LoL.
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http://valiantdignityandstrength.wordpress.com/2013/12/18/a-letter-to-the-other-woman/
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All I can say is Here, Here!!
I would, however, add that the simple Fact that they Continue and Have a relationship with an unavailable person at All, is sickening.
This type of behaviour definitely compounds it. 😦
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Thank you for stopping by. I greatly appreciate you taking time out of your day to read my post. Thank you.
I created this post to focus on one subgroup of the infidelity, and a specific example of the infidelity. In other words, the kind of “other woman” that experiences an end to the affair (the guy calls it off, finds another “other” woman, etc), where she then decides to release her anger on the wife/girlfriend publicly.
There are many ways it can happen (the reveal), but the example I used was pulled from an actual event, where the “other” woman utilized a social media element to embarrass the unsuspecting partner. This was the only focus for this particular post. I did not want to address the husband/boyfriend, or whether the “other” woman’s decision to be with someone’s boyfriend/husband is a good or bad idea.
Thanks again for you time.
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I do enjoy your writings 🙂
I also gathered as much, but it cannot be helped, it is quite difficult to open a can of worms and let out only a particular type 😉
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From my perspective they were already the lowest by knowingly being in an affair. Behaving vindictively doesn’t make that any worse. I’d rather be told vindictively than be kept in the dark, and the blogs are full of OW who rationalise keeping the wife in the dark (which is really to save themselves consequences) by smarmy statements like “I don’t want to cause her unnecessary pain”. It’s self-serving nonsense. Being told is necessary pain. The unnecessary pain was backstabbing her in the first place.
I appreciate your intentions and yes there are better and worse ways to be told and yes they reflect on her, but in the end anything is better than ongoing deception.
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Wow, Nephila, you don’t object to the fact that this post only blames the OW and barely says anything about the husband, despite being written by a “gentleman.” The fact that you jump in and say he is totally right reveals your biases, once again.
This author, who is completely ridiculous, never once mentions the husband’s duty or whether or not the OW is married and what the man owes to that woman’s husband. And aren’t you someone who says the OW should always tell the wife, no matter what, even if it is not “sisterly” as this wonderful, clueless male writes describes it?
Who is this guy, by the way? Gentleman, you are no gentleman and clearly have no experience in this arena. To put the majority of the blame on the OW (you have one measly sentence on the husband, the person who actually took an oath to his wife in front of God and family and who knows who else) is neither realistic nor gentlemanly. I suggest you stick to something you know about–maybe how to plump up your own ego?
The fact of the matter is that what you have written about only happens in the movies or in the twisted minds of people like Nephila (her story reads like the script of Fatal Attraction–a little too much, if you ask me. I think someone has an active imagination) Affairs tend to be much more mutual, the married man isn’t always the one who ends it, isn’t always the one who does the right thing, and they are a hell of a lot complicated than what you write
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Take up your gripe with the blog owner. I have no interests in the opinions of a cheat or apologist.
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@M
Thank you for venturing to the post. I will begin by saying there is an epidemic of sorts, where people read but have difficulty actually retaining what is actually presented. I have no idea why this is so rampant today, or perhaps it has always been this way.
That is not an insult, but an observation.
I must set this precedent because from your initial response, you created a response based on your feelings on what you read, as opposed to simply following exactly what I wrote. Words are powerful, but only when used accurately. When we apply an assumption on what we read, it distorts what is actually presented.
From your response, your words show that you did not read the post objectively. Instead, you created a response by imposing your beliefs on what you assumed was written, but not what was actually written.
1. My post was not created with any other intent, but to address only females who engage with males currently in relationships, who carry on an affair with these males completely aware of the wife/girlfriend. I did not create this post to address the boyfriend or husband, because the specific purpose of this post, was not about them.
The idea behind this post and the exact example used in the post, is based on individuals (females) whom are well aware the guys they are with, are boyfriends and husbands. I am not undermining his role. I simply chose not to address it in this particular post. I made it clear in the post which subgroup of the affair, that I will focus on.
Once again, the focus for this particular post is solely on vindictive women. I apply the word “solely,” because the goal is to focus on this subgroup alone, paying no mind to any other subgroup or group, involved in an affair.
When the affair in the exact example I presented is called off by the male, the other woman in this exact example, vindictively takes out her anger on the wife/girlfriend.
We should refrain from replying to the things we read, until we are able to reply solely on the words that we read. Right now, you reacted with no objectivity, and failed to see what was presented.
You referenced things that I touched on in the post, and yet, you still presented them as if they were not addressed and explained in the post. You also presented things not involved in the post, and asked why, when I referenced in the post the reason.
You applied an ad hominem to validate your response, as opposed to simply using a logical response to “refute” what is presented. The example of this is here…
“This author, who is completely ridiculous.”
“…as this wonderful, clueless male writes describes it?”
“Who is this guy, by the way? Gentleman, you are no gentleman and clearly have no experience in this arena.”
I welcome disagreements, but personal verbal “jabs” are not valid arguments. Most importantly, if one disagrees with me, disagree when you grasp what the post is about and not what you assume it is about. For instance…
“To put the majority of the blame on the OW (you have one measly sentence on the husband.”
This line shows me you did not actually read my post objectively, nor did you actually grasp what the post is about. You simply drew your conclusion when in the post, I specifically expressed what the post is about.
You’re Imposing your feelings again, which has no connection to the post or me, on a personal level by referencing ego, when no ego is present. You did that here…
“I suggest you stick to something you know about–maybe how to plump up your own ego?”
The affair in this post, was pulled from an actual event. Once again, you are imposing your feelings. You did that here, as if your life’s story is that of mine or someone else’s.
“The fact of the matter is that what you have written about only happens in the movies or in the twisted minds of people like Nephila.”
When did I say affairs are not mutual, or that the “other” woman is incapable of ending the affair? You are creating your own argument, and then arguing with me on that very argument, as if I created it. You did that here.
“Affairs tend to be much more mutual, the married man isn’t always the one who ends it, isn’t always the one who does the right thing, and they are a hell of a lot complicated than what you write.”
Whenever you respond to anything you hear or read, be attentive to what you are actually reading or hearing. That way, you know that your response will focus on exactly what you hear or read, and not something that you created. Your response shows you were unsuccessful in that regard.
Thank you for your time. If you do want to continue this conversation, please read the post again, but objectively. Read your initial response and then my response, before you decide to respond. There is zero ego, anger, anxiousness or any other term present, which someone would use to discredit this post. I am a calm and collective individual, especially when I write a response such as this. The length is long as you can see, but the intent is to address as best as possible, your response.
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M, no one needs to defend the OW and put you out of a job, never fear. Now when I read you condemning the narcissistic, cruel and selfish actions of these women who chase married men without blame shifting to him or anyone else but simply focusing on her…then you will have more credibility. Until then youre just another apologist. I’m not holding my breath. I will never defend a cheating man and that takes nothing from the indefensible actions of the women involved. That each is separately and wholly responsible for their own actions and that those actions have no excuse wver is something that is beyond you. I am so glad that I have never done anything even remotely that awful to another human being in my life. In your position i could not live with myself.
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@Nephila
Thanks for sharing a response, and providing your time on the post. I appreciate your time and response.
I can understand your perspective, because in your situation you want to be aware of the infidelity. However, the post did not say the wife/girlfriend should not become aware of the infidelity.
I did not create this post to say the reveal should not happen. In the post, I wrote that this particular example of the “other” woman, is purposely revealing the affair not out of a “sisterhood” bond with the wife/girlfriend. She is only sharing information because of anger (he ended things, found another “other” woman, etc). She could not care less about the wife’s/girlfriend’s feelings. She conducted an affair, and had no interest for the partner. This “other” woman only decides to engage with wife/girlfriend, now that she is replaced/affair is called off.
In this exact example, she then sends out a Tweet to the wife/girlfriend to specifically embarrass her publicly. I am not referring to any other example, but specifically what I presented in the post. I did not say in the post whether this type of reveal is better or worse. I was only focusing on the fact that the woman wants to maliciously contact the partner, because of what the husband/boyfriend did. I hope this cleared up the confusion. You perfectly stated what the specific intent of this post with the quote below, when the reveal occurs after the fact and maliciously.
“It’s self-serving nonsense.”
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I didnt mean to suggest that you advocated non-disclosure. Just pointing out the priorities of many wives discount the nasty motives of the OW telling and value the fact of being told. Hey if they were nice, non-vindictive people they wouldnt be in the affair to begin with. So to be honest I think you ask too much of them. 🙂
Apologies for attracting the troll. M just follows me around defending women in affairs. Its a bit sad to be that desperate to defend bad behaviour frankly, and I have some pity M is so driven. Being driven on the side of the innocent victims is one thing but you have to have some big denial issues to defend evil.
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Good day. I hope you are well. I am sure most wives/girlfriends want to know, but that was not the focus in this post. They are committing a horrible action most definitely, but during the affair in the example above, they had/have no intention of engaging with the wife/girlfriend. The particular example of this post only focuses on someone who then sends a tweet/photo of a sexcapade, when the guy finds another woman/ends the affair. I definitely understand where you are coming from, but the example you used was not part of this post. I removed many elements to zero-in on one exact example. Trust me, I am not giving too much credit/asking much from them. LoL.
You have nothing to apologize for. These individuals only arrive on infidelity posts. Their hearts do not allow them to engage, on any of the other subjects I write about.
I am completely fine with that of course, but their intentions are clear when their only agenda is to visit infidelity posts, and find something to say you are wrong because I… you are stupid… or you have an ego. These are emotional replies and there is nothing wrong with having emotions, but these individuals should not let them drive their supposed argument. I welcome them nonetheless, but I don’t need to use personal jabs to refute someone. I simply respond only to their words. It is clear they are not used to that. They expect a similar emotional response (verbal jabs, etc) from me, but I refuse to engage that way.
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As always, a thoughtful post, OneGentleman. Words have power, and the intention behind the method of delivery of such reveals says a lot about the quality of a person’s (or in this case, woman’s) character.
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Ma’am…I can always count on you to actually know where the post is coming from. In fact, my wife recognizes this with the people I regularly engage with. The only time something out of the norm happens, involves people who randomly stop in simply to argue. LoL. I find it humorous, but I always respond to their comments in a calm and collective state of mind. Thank you for being you, trust me…you would be amazed by the kinds of replies I receive, which are rooted in them trying to insult me.
When you read the posts, you do not apply what you think I am saying or what you feel, you simply focus purely on the words. I have to ask, why do you objectively read, when so many others instead…
1. Read/skim
2. Create their own argument on what they think I wrote
3. Begin their reply by trying to insult me personally, argue with the argument they created as if it were my creation and then continue trying to insult me
4. When I respond objectively to them and explain that they did not address exactly what I wrote, but utilized personal attacks and newly created arguments, which are not included in the post, they say I have an ego, think I am better than them or another tactic to get away from actually addressing what I wrote. LoL. This “ego” thing they keep using is becoming boring now. Egotistical? LoL. My wife, family and friends would laugh at that label.
I would love to understand why you refrain from this. It is a breath of fresh air engaging with you. I know these “troublemakers” are in the minority on my blog, but they are surely not the minority on social media.
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You flatter me with your kind words. While it seems I read and comment objectively, let me assure you I am completely capable of an inappropriately emotional response to every sitation. *smile*
Despite my ability to be emotional in my commenting, I choose and try very hard to concentrate on how you present your perspective and how I interpret it, feel about it, and whether it is valid or not from where I am sitting right now. I miss the point entirely if I am flailing my arms and calling you names instead of focusing on your words and how you have used them to express yourself.
I am a big believer in common courtesy and civil discourse. If I found your ideas vile and distasteful I would vote with my time and unfollow your blog. If I disagree with something you say I should have a way of expressing it without dumbing down to personal insults or attributing my own biases to you and trying to twist your statements to fit my agenda. Your blog tends to highlight realities that should challenge and inspire thoughtful consideration. I always read with the idea that I am unlikely to be the smartest or most articulate person reading or engaging in the discussion, but there is a lot to be gained from listening to and intereacting with wise people. For me to do so comfortably and with any hope of being taken seriously means reading/listening actively and striving for all I’m worth to get the big picture as well as the nuanced bullet points.
Other than the blogs I engage with regularly and the friends I interact with via email, text, or IM, I really do not see the point of most discussion forums or groups. In my limited, secondhand exposure they seem to be filled with shrill people screaming “look at me!” in all caps at maxium volume. Some of that spills over into blogs written by real people, my own included. Same is true of social media, which seems akin to a popularity or beauty contests that stretch into infinity. So for me, participating in social media seems completely pointless. I am far too honest and politically clumsy to ever reach popularity, and I have no hope of attaining the superficial beauty sought after so desperately.
I actually hate what passes for discussion and debate these days. Too much of the time its parsed and phrased and presented to minimize the other party, focused solely on winning by neutralizing the discussion partner rather than creating and defending a persuasive argument or point. There are things/behaviors/events in life that are intrinsically black-and-white good or bad, but those definitives are so much rarer than the normal good/bad/it depends behaviors and events. Sadly to me, there seems to be whole generations of people unschooled in objectivity, who believe might equals right, that discrediting or silencing differing perspective makes them and their views more valid and correct. Bad people can hold good opinions just the same as good people holding poor opinions. Simply silencing dissenting opinions or opposition does not strengthen an argument. One would never know it from the polarizing effects on all sides of any hot-button issue.
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Good day. I hope this finds you well. Thank you much for the response.
I think from your response, some people enter the post with a clear motive to react irrationally, versus the option where they choose and try very hard to concentrate on how you present your perspective and how I interpret it, feel about it, and whether it is valid or not from where I am sitting right now. I find it strange that some think I write for others to agree with my perspective. I do not write to have people agree. I write to share my perspective. Whether one agrees or disagrees is irrelevant, because it is only an opinion.
I am taken aback when someone writes a response about my post, saying they disagree with my perspective as if I created the post as a gospel of sorts. LoL. I simply want a discussion. I am far more interested to hear what others think about something.
I miss the point entirely if I am flailing my arms and calling you names instead of focusing on your words and how you have used them to express yourself.
This is the strangest thing to me, because if someone disagrees, I actually embrace opposing opinions. However, disagree with my words, not the words you create and then reference them as mine. LoL.
Your blog tends to highlight realities that should challenge and inspire thoughtful consideration.
This is one of the main reasons I create a post, when it involves hot buttons issues. If I am not adding something “different” to the discussion, I will not upload it.
I actually hate what passes for discussion and debate these days.
This is one of the reasons I created the post about disagreeing online. Opposing views is one thing, but to oppose a view where the response has little to do detailing the why, but is instead compiled of a personal jabs—that is an incorrect way to disagree.
Sadly to me, there seems to be whole generations of people unschooled in objectivity, who believe might equals right, that discrediting or silencing differing perspective makes them and their views more valid and correct.
This is a major issue that I see online—lack of objectively disagreeing with someone.
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