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We define a gift as something given voluntarily, without payment in return. We can bestow such a thing to honor someone’s birthday, to commemorate a holiday or simply just because.
Sometimes, a gift is not merely a thing. Sometimes a gift comes in the form of a person. As a parent, you experience this gift upon the birth of your child.
Several years ago, a gift entered my life, and I am not sure what I did in order to receive such a blessing.
I am not entirely sure what deeds I committed, to have such a gift bestowed upon my life, precisely at the moment in time.
Usually, the presentation of a gift is within a carefully wrapped packaging. After removing said packaging, we tend to discard the wrapping and fixate our attention on whatever remains inside.
However, I awake each morning and unwrap a new layer. With each layer, I am presented another reason to appreciate my gift. Each layer represents a new reason to love; therefore, I refuse to discard the wrapping.
The wrapping represents yesterday’s reason as to why I loved the gift, so the wrapping remains because I never want to forget.
With this gift, no day is an ordinary day. With this gift, each glance in its direction is extraordinary. With this gift, each day is special day, regardless of the current date on the calendar.
It seems as if two angels kissed, on the day I fell in love with my gift. On each morning as I turn to remove a layer of my gift, the whispers of their love softly echo in my ears.
This gift is the beat to my heart, because through this gift, I experience the best, which life has to offer. This gift is a gem; it is the reason I am discovering new ways to convey appreciation.
This morning, afternoon or evening, as you read this message darling, you are the gift that will forever trump anything I could discover through any man-made measures.
With each layer I remove, I love you greater than I did the day before. With each layer I remove, I appreciate you with a grander sense of appreciation, than I did the day before.
With each layer I remove, I hold firm to the old one. It provides a daily reminder, as to how much I am in love with you mahal ko. I do not require a national holiday, or event to realize the special nature of each day.
Each day with you is a special day, because it provides another reason to fall in love with my gift. I am your husband and you are my wife—this union is a gift that I will always cherish.
One Gentleman's Perspective 
Reblogged this on Human Interest.
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Thanks for reading this piece, which touches on my wife.
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You’re welcome
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Beautiful write.
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I graciously accept your words. Thank you. Every now and again, I like to throw in something that addresses the admiration I have for my wife. She’s truly someone special.
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It’s lovely to hear about marriages that are makin’ it happen. They are becoming a rarity.
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Before our ceremony, several of my male elders (barbershop chatter) said I was wasting my time getting married. They said that she would instantly change on me, and stop doing things that I considered sexy, etc. The funny thing they failed to understand is that we communicate openly about everything.
We addressed the kinds of scenarios, involving typical horror stories involving marriages. My perspective on life, as well as hers, leaves no room for either of us to take the other for granted. In short, do not pass your shortcomings in a relationship onto us, simply because communication and other elements of a relationship are absent in yours. Instead of feeding me poor advice, I was wondering why they weren’t giving me tips on how to stop our marriage, from going down the wrong path. Wouldn’t that kind of advice make more sense? LoL
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Yes, it would make more sense, there’s a good chance that they had no idea how to make a relationship work. I’m sure they meant well, but one can’t draw fresh water from a polluted well. When I wanted to know how to make my marriage last I consulted couples who had been married 30+ years and still had “the spark”. They gave very good advice. Common goals & ideals, communication, openness, honesty, humor, commitment and no “escape clause”, that’s what makes it work long term in a pleasant way. The goal being to have a long happy marriage and not just a long one :P.
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You are 100 percent correct. One needs information regarding common goals, honesty, communication, etc.
They didn’t provide any of that. I simply received the same horror stories I heard before. I get it dudes…now tell me ways to get around these issues that you are bringing up. It’s like a vicious cycle. People here this information, and it clouds their mind, which they then repeat to someone else. The “best” advice of all is that I need girlfriends on the side. HaHa. Right… That would benefit my marriage. Others can commit this action of course, but I honestly see no point getting married to my wife, if my goal is to have girlfriends on the side. No wonder so many within this generation, and those behind are so lost.
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Maybe that’s all they know? So that’s all they can offer. Look for other couples who are making it work the way you want to and you’ll get better advice.
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That’s perhaps all they know, but I surely wasn’t seeking their advice on the subject. The moment they learned about my marriage, they simply became my psychologist without me asking. They added their take on the loss that males will encounter, through their eyes, whenever this guy decides to get married. In other words, “Oh you’re getting married soon? Yeah, don’t expect anything to remain the same. All of the sexy things she does now, you can forget about them after getting married.” I know this isn’t representative of all marriages, but more importantly, I understand the state of mind of the ones in the barbershop. Therefore, the kind of information that would better serve me was absent.
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You’re right about that.
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So beautiful. I am starting to feel like a gift once more and it feels good. I was treated like a gift for nearly 30 years then nothing. Your wife is a very lucky and, it seems, beautiful lady x
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That’s a beautiful thing. Our partners should not only know it, but they should feel it. Regardless if the relationship is one year, or on its way to commemorating its 50th… she should know and feel this energy, which says that she is a gift. You are a gift that increases in value, with every layer of wrapping he removes.
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Reblogged this on GLOBAL RADIO NETWORK.
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Thank you for the reblog. I appreciate you taking a moment to reading this piece .
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Beautiful
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Thanks Paul. She’s amazing woman, deserving of every word
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Aw, thanks. Wait – husband and wife? Hmmm, guess you weren’t talking about me after all. 🙂
I think you have nailed a key element in sustaining a long term relationship – appreciation. Continuing to value what you have every day, through good times and bad. Sadly that’s quite rare. It’s easier to get caught up in day to day life and start to take for granted what you have. That leads to starting to focus on what’s missing.
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LoL. Better luck next time Drew. My wife read your comment and found it rather funny.
“Continuing to value what you have every day, through good times and bad. ”
I mentioned in my recent Instagram post, how the art of romance is slowly dying. Using words through romantic expression, in order to capture one’s attention is taking a backseat. Appreciation is another element that’s taking a backseat, especially in this era of sharing photos. Collectively, the expression of love or admiration through words, is like something people only do when the person is no longer here to hear it, or by purchasing a card on holidays.
My focus will always relate to appreciating my loved ones. After all, we wake up everyday and do things that somehow relates back to them (work, etc). At the end of the day, everything we do is somehow about them. Why not take a moment to appreciate them?
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You two take the best pictures together.
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Thank you. Our photographer should receive all of the credit. He’s rather awesome.
It’s been nearly a month since I’ve accessed anything blog related, so that explains my delay. I wasn’t going to return yet, but an accident with uploaded entries saved from long ago, altered that decision today. LoL.
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Glad you’re back! 😉
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