About One Gentleman

One Gentleman's Perspective



What is a gentleman? Long ago if you asked me this question, my answer would consist of an old English professor from Oxford University, similar to the appearance of Indiana Jones. However, this was an incorrect assessment, because we do not define a gentleman by his physical appearance alone. When you enter the path of a gentleman, it is a lifestyle, not merely an appearance.

So, who am I? I am a son, uncle, brother, husband, but above all else, I am a gentleman. What exactly is my definition of a gentleman today? I believe a gentleman is one who has good character, remains chivalrous, courteous, and honorable. A gentleman maintains integrity, even when others are not in his presence.

A gentleman is one who teaches, but has no gripes when it comes to acquiring information from others. A man who believes he knows everything, in reality, he knows nothing at all. A gentleman is one who grabs hold to humility, but is also confident.

Sadly, this depiction has diminished in the popular culture, in order to follow a path a gentleman does not stand for. Today, it is far easier to give up one’s principles, all in the pursuit for fame. Because of this, my wife desired to spread my perspective: a perspective that was able to guide a boy from adolescent into manhood.

There was something in my perspective on popular culture, as well as topics considered taboo, she felt others should become aware.

I am no expert—I am merely a guy with a vision to change the thoughts of young males, who refuse to become men.

Age does not define manhood, your state of mind does.

There are elements that guide young boys onto a path, which never leads to a gentleman’s lifestyle. There are far too many measures in place, to diminish a young girl’s desire to become a lady. With this in mind, during the introduction of 2014, my amazingly beautiful and gifted wife, created this concept of One Gentleman’s Perspective.

Through my perspective, I want to initiate a world where young boys hone a more distinguished sense of style, sense of self, relationships with meaning, an understanding for finances and an overall life worth living.

Being a gentleman is not simply wearing a designer suit, driving a Maserati and smoking a cigar—it is a way of life. Whether you are old, young, male or female, follow along this journey through One Gentleman’s Perspective.

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34 thoughts on “About One Gentleman”

  1. Oh, I just love the idea behind your blog! So many guys need a lesson in their lives. Glad to see a guy that thinks this is important. Fabulous.

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    • I am truly humbled by that comment. My wife is the reason this all started. She felt I had something others would like to read. I’ve always heard I have a different spin on life, that other males my age seem to lack. I think this is due to my appreciation for life in general and never taking a moment for granted. When you don’t take seconds for granted, you develop a level of respect for your fellow man and of course woman. I’m appreciative that others on this website enjoy the message.

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  2. Did you change your theme? Or am I just remembering how it looked incorrectly? Looks lovely regardless.

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    • Good day. I did actually. The original was very bland and was in dire need of fine tuning. There are other changes to come, but I too believe this one looks much better. It has a cleaner appearance. Thanks.


  3. Came across a blog you might be interested in looking through. You came to mind when I saw his. I sent him yours as well.

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    • That’s funny. LoL. He found my page about two weeks ago and followed. I visited and definitely enjoyed his point of view, so I followed suit. Thanks for link.


  4. Great blog Idea! though I am blessed to have three adult sons whom I consider gentleman and are now fathers, raising their own ‘gentlemen”…there is a great need for men like you to share your wisdom.

    As a nurse I’ve worked inside of prison’s in a few states and can sadly say that they are spilling over with young men of color. Let’s continue to educate them on real manhood and help save them from that fate!

    God Bless!

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    • Thank you very much. It is a pleasure. We all have to work together to bring change. I consider children similar to the construction of a neighborhood or building. It takes multiple hands to assist in the creation. We have to do our best to rid them of negative influences, and promote the positive. Right now, they gain influence from far too many negative sources.

      I am happy to hear your sons are gentlemen and bringing up young gents in training. That is a wonderful thing. I would love to hear more about your experience inside the prison systems. Thank you very much for stopping by.


  5. I have nominated your blog for the Liebster award. Please find my post here: http://susiereece.com/2014/07/28/liebster-award-nomination/
    I truly enjoy your words. You are a man set apart. Congrats on the nomination. I hope that others will find your words as warm and wise as I have.

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    • Thank you very much for nominating me. I am not sure why the post I sent in July is not here, but I have not been active during the month of August, so excuse this second delayed response. I do not feel I am there yet for my blog, to become nominated. I am still greatly appreciative for the nomination. It’s the second or third one thus far. Thank you


  6. Clarissa Silva, MSW said:

    Thank you for sharing this much needed perspective. You are a true inspiration to both men and women! I think you’re a superhero 🙂 In awe of you, my friend!

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    • It is a pleasure receiving such a nice comment. The best we can do during our lifetime, is share information with others. To gain knowledge and retain as if it were a secret only you should be aware…that is a tragedy.

      I have made many mistakes, but the moment I experienced maturity and encountered my wife–I knew immediately it was time to begin sharing with the world. Once again, it is a pleasure receiving such a comment.


      • Clarissa Silva, MSW said:

        The pleasure is all mine!

        You are truly an inspirational man! I am so glad that you found your compliment and that she enhances you to be an even more better person!

        Keep up the great work!

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  7. Excellent…You and your Readers may enjoy “The Chilvary Man” on Things I Love! http://sahiyena.wordpress.com/things-i-love/

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  8. Great concept of you blog. This is severely needed. And thanks for stopping by my blog too. Great comments. See ya!

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    • Thanks very much. The concept was my wife’s idea. I simply utilized the words to flush things out. She is my muse, and like everything else, she brings inspiration simply by talking. Thank you for reading. It’s a pleasure

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  9. Your blog is well-written and in a world that constantly pushes a negative view of men, it is nice to see someone “breaking the mold” women believe men fit into. Keep up the great work and I will keep reading. You are a breath of fresh air.

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    • I am humbled Sara D. Can I call you Sara D? Lol. Thank you for the positive energy. I am trying to hone the writing, because there is so much to learn in the realm of grammar, etc. I appreciate the acknowledgement on my road to becoming better on this blog. Thank you.

      I know that I am only one guy, but even on my Instagram posts, complete strangers (males +female) tell me that my perspective is changing their outlook on things. That is refreshing.

      I know the difficulty of young minds receiving poor influences, so young boys develop into poorly influenced adult males. The same happens with young girls. I see it everyday. I learned by listening, observing and learning from my own mistakes. I know there are/were countless young boys in my same position, so my goal is to share a perspective to potentially help them along the way. A gentleman’s perspective if you will. Lol.

      I am grateful for your message. Messages like yours… they continue fueling my desire to share on this blog.

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      • I know that I am only one guy, but even on my Instagram posts, complete strangers (males +female) tell me that my perspective is changing their outlook on things. That is refreshing.

        And that’s what it is all about. Yes, you are only one man… but sometimes that’s all it takes.


  10. There are far too many measures in place, to diminish a young girl’s desire to become a lady. With this in mind, during the introduction of 2014, my amazingly beautiful and gifted wife, created this concept of One Gentleman’s Perspective.
    So you and your wife work on this page together?

    That’s wonderful! I guess that answers my last question to you…my husband was wondering what inspires you to write what you do.

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    • She does not write, but she will soon. We may bounce around ideas, or I would write something (specifically posts involving women) and do the following:
      1. Are you offended by this?
      2. Does it appear sexist in any way?
      3. What would you want to know more of/less of, if you were the reader?

      She will then say…
      1. How could someone find offense to the truth, if they are truly looking for a real perspective?
      2. Only someone looking for that will see it. I definitely do not.
      3. I think you should explain this more. B. I don’t think that is necessary, because everything without it is still perfect.

      She’s my muse, because she understands the message does not come from a malicious place. She understands more than anyone, my dismay with relationship experts giving women only one piece of the pie. She understands more than anyone, telling women/men they play no role in their choices in a partner is destructive. When we speak on different topics, she would say before the creation of the blog, “More people need to hear this message . They are so used to things that make them feel good, yet they continue making the same mistakes. Your perspective may not be for every one, but for those seeking a real answer, they’ll embrace you.”


      • for men only and for women only are amazing books…that take a look at both sides through extensive study and interviews…I love the books and hate them at the same time…I disagree with some content in the way the present some of it…but I think the teachings in our church address things in a more clear way…and they definitely use these books and encourage others to read them. I didn’t understand what you sad about your wife…she doesn’t understand what you write…but she understands more than anyone?…comes from a malicious place?


      • She’s my muse, because she understands “nothing” I write, comes from a malicious place.

        The things that I write do not come from a place of malicious intent. She understands this. They are not to hurt someone’s feelings. However, a person can read it and interpret that way. I cannot control how people take their personal history, and apply it to my reading. Lol. My “truth” or perspective is to provide a different perspective.

        The perspective is to give answers, where some may not understand why something occurs. For instance, all of Kathy’s boyfriends abused her. People will simply say “men are dirtbags.”

        I instead say, “There is something about you that is continuously attracting abusive men. You must discover what it is. These men have past histories of trauma during their childhood, which they project unto you. However, the pattern of attracting these men come back to you.” That is not an easy pill to swallow, but it is the truth. Studies prove this time and time again. You are what you attract. We can deny this, but science proves the concept correct.

        The truth is difficult to accept, because it means we have to embrace accountability for our actions and decisions. It is far easier to be a victim, than to admit, “I have accountability in some way.” I have not read the book you have mentioned.


      • AH ha! I See


  11. Thank you for starting this blog. I’ve only read one post and figured before I continue, I really should look at the about page.

    There’s one thing on this page that I love, and it’s the fact that never once, do you say ‘black’ man. Of course, by your picture, I know but no where did you say that. I really love that, because other than my brother-in-law, I’ve never heard anybody describe himself as a man.

    It’s probably stupid, but to have that distinction to me is very important. I don’t ever look at a person’s skin color to make a decision. In fact, when I talk about my brother-in-law, which I consider my brother, I never talk about his color unless it’s something like this. I was inspired by him to write my ‘What is Color?’

    I just wanted to say thank for that. Looking forward to reading other posts.

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    • Thank you for stopping by and checking out this side of the blogosphere. For the description, I did not think representing my ethnicity or racial makeup were relevant, in the definition of a gentleman. You can be a gentleman if you are Chinese, Spaniard, Black, etc. Setting a distinction for me didn’t serve a purpose. It did not even cross my mind. Lol

      I believe it is one thing not to judge/define someone solely by their “color” or ethnic/racial background. For instance, with our eyes, we are able to see that someone is fit, overweight, tall, short, etc. However, you should not define the person solely by their height, weight, etc. It is a part of them, but it is not all of them.

      However, it is another to completely remove what your eyes see, as if the things do not exist. That is destructive in my opinion, when it comes to this concept of, “I don’t see color.” Our physical differences are clearly visible, and I do not think I will completely remove the concept that you are tall, short, Black, male, female, etc. If I were to reject seeing these things, I am removing the existence of elements of you, in order to pretend I do not see them.


  12. SheryL♥ said:

    Hi! Thanks for dropping by! You’re great!^^

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  13. imgracen said:

    Hi Mr. Gentleman! Is your wife a Fillipina? I have read one of your articles about your wife shared by fickle heart. Your wife is blessed just as you are blessed to have her.

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  14. Hi!

    You have a new task awaiting you at http://www.inkingthethinking.wordpress.com titled ‘Spreading Love’. I hope you will accept it!

    Graciously Yours!


  15. Hey Alton, Not sure if you saw, but I was recently nominated for the Leibster award. It involves nominating other blogs – and I’ve chosen yours as one of the ones I really enjoy. The award acts a bit like a chain letter I suppose (which I don’t like), and as a result I almost didn’t do it, but the intent is to provide additional exposure, which I can support.

    You can find details at http://thezombieshuffle.com/2015/03/20/and-the-award-goes-to/. Whether you choose to do it or not is up to you.



    • Good day Drew. I’ve been nominated for a few of these before, and I still don’t think I deserve the awards yet. I haven’t been online for nearly a month, but due to scheduling entries to upload at a future date, I had several entries uploaded at once. LoL. I usually draft and save them, in order to revisit and revise. I didn’t get that chance for these entries, so I had to remove them all expect one. It seems it was a sign for me to return online. I appreciate the nomination. Thank you.


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