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Through One Gentleman’s Perspective, dressing well is a form of good manners. Let me rephrase this, because I understand how easily the topic of a male dressing well, can be misconstrued.
Through One Gentleman’s Perspective, dressing well according to one’s budget, is a form of good manners. A well-dressed male is not only defined as someone wearing: $3K blazer, $700 double monk-strap loafers, $200 belt, $50 socks, $200 trousers, $100 shirt, $15K timepiece and an $80 pocket square.
A gentleman can dress well to fit his budget, shape, style, occasion and yet, always remain a gentleman. You have so many things to assess about your big date, so I am here to assist in one particular department–dressing the part
Before I continue, if you believe in applying silly and misplaced labels on males, who believe that dressing well is a part of his code, exit the webpage now. If your idea of a good time is transferring your insecurities onto males, who dress well, close out this webpage now.
I have a lot of patience, but illogical minded people and those who enjoy spreading their negative energy–you are like a pest…a disease even. I refuse to be your host.
So, you have a date. Cool. Give me a rundown of tonight’s outfit.
- Un-ironed T-shirt
- Sweatpants
- Nike Air Max
Are you going to the gym before your date tonight? Hmm…so you are not going to the gym. Are you perhaps going to do laundry nearby, before you head to your date? Really? So this is not for the gym and you are not going to the launderette. Wait, this is actually your outfit for the date tonight. Wowzers! Tell me, where are you going for this date tonight?
- Dinner at a French restaurant and then a movie.
There is a time and a place for everything and as I have mentioned before, dressing well is a form of good manners. Tonight is not the time to show your date, just how much you love wearing your workout gear. Therefore, give me these items and place them back into your closet.
You want to be yourself, but you also want to be presentable. What is the restaurant’s dress code? This is important, so I always begin with the dress code. A quick Google search will provide an answer. It seems the dress code according to Yelp is casual elegance.
What in the world is casual elegance? This depends on the time of day and venue. Since the evening begins inside at a nice restaurant, think of casual elegance as dressing up a casual look, where casual is jeans and a collared shirt. It also represents a level below dressy, where you imagine a full suit. You are in the middle here, so keep that in mind.
With your dinner beginning at 6PM, here is my idea for tonight, as I look through your closet.
- Windowpane tailored sports coat
- Shawl collar merino wool sweater
- Point collar shirt
- Pocket square
- Brown belt
- Rust colored dressy chinos
- Tie
- Brown shoes
- Blue socks (Match socks with something in the outfit. Tonight we decide to connect with the sweater and pocket square).
When you form a connection with your socks and item of clothing, it is a personal taste. Some guys exclusively match socks to the belt, socks with tie or socks to the pocket square. I simply link the socks with a color of the pocket square or tie. Some do not match the sock with anything. That is your preference.
However, I find it brings everything together, when there is a connection with the tie or pocket square.
Why did I choose brown shoes? Trousers complement with certain colors of shoes. Tan colored pants for instance, pair well with light brown, dark brown, burgundy, green and even navy blue shoes. Darker brown pants pair well with all of the above except burgundy. The belt’s color should complement the shoes, therefore we chose brown for tonight.
I chose the merino wool sweater, because the thin fabric pairs well with the sports coat. When you wear a sweater with a sports coat or blazer, the key is the fit of the sweater. It will not work successfully, comfort wise, if the sweater is too thick.
Before you leave, shine your shoes. A gentleman never departs his home, without first observing the cleanliness of his shoes.
The outfit chosen for tonight’s date, is not the standard outfit for all outings. However, the selection process is the typical approach. This particular outfit was merely a blueprint, for this evening and dress code.
The general blueprint when deciding what to wear:
- Determine where you are going
- Find out the dress code
- Complement colors within the outfit
- Wear something according to your build and style, but make sure it fits the dress code
- Never allow a price tag to define an outfit’s greatness. Instead, the way that you bring it together defines its greatness
- Make sure everything that requires alteration, goes to a tailor. There are no greater sins for a gentleman’s attire, than ill-fitted items.
When you look good, you feel good. When you feel good, you act good. When these things fall into place, you appear with an air of confidence, which is something women find sexy.
The attire is not what makes us appealing. On the contrary, you make you appealing. The clothes, well, they are simply an extension of who you are.
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Thanks. I appreciate you stopping by and reading the information.
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I enjoy seeing well dressed men! I love this post. Too many young men (and older men) are lacking in appearance. And it’s true if you look good you feel good. But you forgot to add “take a bath.” LOL’s. And for goodness sake ALL men should invest in aftershave/cologne, and not the cheap stuff! They can go to Sam’s Club and purchase good cologne for a fraction of the cost. They can go to department stores and buy suits for pennies on the dollar during a year end sale. Every man should have a suit! My oldest son didn’t have one. He was forced to wear a suit of my uncles when my aunt died, his great-aunt. So when I heard about him not having a suit, I waited for a good sale. Afterwards, I found him a $1,200 suit for under a $100. The boy looks good, now! And each year I buy him underwear, t-shirts, and shoes for Christmas; because you never stop being a parent when your children grow up. And he has made plenty of mistakes that took their toll on his life. And I do all I can to try and prop him up with assurance if he can look up he can get up. Great post!
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My wife would always say that the manner I view her lingerie and dresses, that is exactly how she views my suits. She has a great eye for fabrics, ties, socks patterns and things of that nature. She selects some of my best ties actually. I didn’t add the bath, because that doesn’t take a gentleman’s perspective to know. LOL. You should already do that everyday and not solely on date nights. That’s rather strange in my opinion, but there are people who do not believe in committing to this on a daily basis (shower/bathing).
When it comes to cologne, that too goes with their daily routine. I didn’t add cologne, because smelling good is something you should strive for daily. However, perhaps I should have applied a small section about where to spray, the amount to spray and wearing the right cologne depending on the season. Did your son get the suit tailored? Did he continue acquiring more suits? My mother would go shopping for her and still buy things for us. LoL. “You guys are my kids and I love my kids.”
I’m going to provide as much information as possible in this Gentleman’s Closet. I’ll have my wife guest posting as well.
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I agree with you that dressing properly is just good matters, especially if your date is dressed up. I always find it odd when you see two people on a date, and the woman is wearing a nice dress, while the guy is wearing a t-shirt and cargo shorts. Also, great sample outfit suggestion.
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Thanks. My wife and I both have a similar reaction as you. LOL. We see the girl dressed as if she were heading to a photoshoot. As for the guy, well, he looks as if he is about to do yard work. It never made sense to me. It is their prerogative of course, but weird nonetheless. I had the photo that went with the description, but the custom clothier did not give me permission. I was not about to place myself in a situation to get sued as others have, so I did not add the image.
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I just LOVE your fashion segments! So true. You couldn’t say it any better.
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Thanks. This was all her idea. I am trying to bring back the gentleman’s lifestyle in all avenues.
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You sir have got some style, keep it up. Great read. The Gentleman.
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I genuinely appreciate the message From one gent to another, thank you. It is about time we highlight the lifestyle of a gentleman
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Thanks for this. I agree that a lot of people (men and women) need to rethink how they’re dressing. I like how you’ve equated good dressing with good manners. So true! I can’t stand seeing women in tank tops, pajama pants, and Uggs–in restaurants! The male equivalent isn’t any better.
I also agree that style isn’t about money. My husband sometimes splurges on expensive things, but some of his best looks include items from Goodwill! He has an eye for style, and always has crisp, freshly ironed clothes–and shined shoes! He learned that from his grandfather. Never leave the house with scuffed shoes 🙂
I’ll share this post with him. He will appreciate it.
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It’s my pleasure that you decided to read, and then offer a response. Thank you. My wife would often say she doesn’t understand why so many women and girls, believe dressing trashy is sexy or appearing practically nude is seductive. That’s an entirely different topic of course, but it falls in the realm of dressing well. I’m blessed to know her upbringing instilled this notion of ladylike qualities.If we have a baby girl I know she will be in great hands with us…as far as upholding standards that is.
I am an admirer of custom clothiers and tailors, and with my line of business, my appearance is crucial with clientele. Thank you for stopping by. I appreciate the response.
By the way, from the conversations I have with your mum, she sounds like such a wonderful human being. We both agree with this idea that the lifestyle of a lady, will never go out of style. Sadly, with my generation, that concept seems foreign. LoL. Now, it’s about being as unladylike as humanly possible.
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