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Scenario number one
A guy walks into a bar and orders a glass of Bacardi. He takes a seat, and begins watching the opening game of the MLB season. Five minutes later, someone enters and immediately begins yelling at him. He politely tells them to back off, as everyone silently looks on. However, the verbal barrage continues.
Suddenly, the verbal barrage turns physical. As he continues to drink from his glass, he feels a left hook to the back of his head. The drink falls from his hand and shatters on the floor. He turns in their direction, as a straight punch connects with his nose. “What the heck is your problem?” he yells.
He falls off the barstool, as a hand forcibly pushes him backwards. Though slightly dazed, he looks up as spit splatters against his face. “You stupid bastard,” he calmly says, while wiping off his face. Are you finished? Are you done? Why did you hit me?” he asked.
He looks around as people sitting nearby laugh, completely amused by the spectacle. He sits upright and begins to dust himself off, as the assailant exits the bar.
Scenario number two
A woman walks into a popular convenience store, in order to purchase lottery tickets. As she reaches into her purse, a loud slap echoes throughout the store. She drops her purse and clutches her face, completely unaware of the reason behind the attack.
“Are you out of your bloody mind?” she asked. Without hesitation, a second slap lands on the opposite cheek. As a punch is about to land directly into her stomach, three onlookers intervene and begin restraining the assailant. They tussle on the ground because it is clear the assailant is highly upset, and restraining someone with such rage is not as easy as it appears.
As she stands inches away from the assailant restrained on the floor, she collapses, but a customer quickly catches her from hitting the floor.
“Let go of me,” the assailant says softly. “GET OFF OF ME,” they scream. The three men hold on tighter, as the owner dials 9-1-1.
Before uploading this post, I asked my wife to express her point of view. I was curious to find out if she would be able to determine the sexes involved in scenario one, and of course scenario two. “Scenario one is a woman assaulting a man, and scenario two is a man assaulting a woman,” she said.
Before I continue, domestic abuse/assault—I do not condone any of it. Men, women, boys, girls…I do not think any of them should hit one another. I will repeat again: men, women, boy and girl, they should keep their hands, legs, teeth, head and anything else that can bring harm to another person, to themselves.
People need to understand how to control their emotions, where they use words to convey their thoughts, as opposed to physical retaliation. However, in our society, this is not the case. We have a written rule that, “A man should never put his hands on a woman.”
You see, this makes absolutely no sense to me. Not one bit. This is an emotional response. I am not Albert Einstein, Stephen Hawking or any of the number of geniuses; however, I like to interpret things from a logical point of view—as best as possible that is.
Instead of this biased saying, I think it would make more sense to say, “Men, women, boys and girls, should never put their hands on another individual.” Why do we not promote this? I am a gentleman through and through, so any person who thinks I am condoning violence against women by men, I will be honest—you are an idiot.
I know that sounds harsh, but you have to understand, we live in such a politically correct world today, telling the truth will have you losing your job, your freedom, and receive irrational labels that do not apply. The PC nation likes to twist and alter what a person actually says, in order to find fault in their wording. So, if you think I condone violence against women, you are an idiot.
If a guy cheats on his girlfriend, and she slaps the taste of last week’s dinner out of his mouth, people will not question it. In fact, generally, they will laugh, cheer her on and say he deserved it.
Let us reverse this for one second. If a woman cheats on her boyfriend, and he slaps the taste of last week’s dinner out of her mouth, he will go to jail. In fact, people would step in and attack him, call the cops and say a woman never deserves physical violence.
I have to say this one more time—I do not condone violence against women. More importantly, I do not promote violence against anyone, all because you had an irrational slip with self-control.
You cannot say it is okay for one group to act without accountability, and then vilify another group if they were to do a similar action. This is not equality. I owe this dynamic to our amazing politically correct culture. In scenario one, as much as I can chalk it up as fiction, you can find a similar scene in a movie or television show.
Heck, you possibly experienced this same behavior in public. In fact, you can search YouTube for similar social experiments. When a woman assaults a man, people watch, laugh and go about their day. It is obvious that he deserved it.
In scenario two, a man assaults a woman and people intervene. It is obvious that she did not deserve it. How does this make sense? Why are we teaching young boys their actions have consequences? However, we tell young girls they can do as they please and not accept accountability, but if someone does call it out, you shame them for doing so.
If we have a boy or girl, they will both hear the same thing when it comes to violence between males and females…do not put your hands on anyone, simply because you have a lapse in self-control. If we did more of this, and less of this PC nonsense, we could embed the concept of real equality into the next generation.
Since we refuse, one group will strive for superiority and mask it under the umbrella of equality. Trust me, people like my wife, countless others and me, we see what you are doing and it is not equality.
Women, do not assault men. Men, do not assault women. If you do, you both should receive the same reaction and punishment.
LOL, ah, such a brave post.
The idea that boys should not hit girls evolved from the fact that men are simply bigger, more capable of inflicting damage, so we kind of built a code around it.
In the back woods, in the boonies, in the olden days, men and women have always had physical confrontations, but rather gentle ones. Generally girls learn not to hit boys because they do fight back, even if it’s a rather restrained defense.
Flash forwards to domestic violence laws, mandatory arrests, along with alleged equality, and everything just got crazy.
I don’t condone violence, at all, especially between men and women. If you need a bit of physical confrontation, basketball works pretty well. But I almost think that our fears of allowing any physical confrontation between people ever, is doing us some damage. Kids used to get in fights at school and then it was over, friends for the rest of the year. These days it’s assault charges and anger management and years of resentment. What can I say, sometime men and women would do rather innocent things to each other, like throw food, which these days can be an assault charge.
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Brave indeed. I think everyone who speaks with this approach, is vilified. I honestly scratch my head when people say without hesitation, “A man should never put his hands on a woman in any situation.”
I await a continuation, because I expect, “Women should never put their hands on a man under any circumstances.” Sadly, that does not happen. This is the problem I have. That is akin to saying, “Black people should not steal under any circumstances,” and yet completely forget theft is something all humans do. It is idiotic.
When it comes to fights, it is a natural part of humanity. We have been fighting since the beginning of time. Stepping on someone’s shoe, and ending up in a fight–that is senseless. Accidentally bumping into someone and having your life come to an end–that’s just silly. This is what I am referring to about keeping your hands to yourself. However, if someone were to attack my wife…all bets are off. This is the exception about keeping one’s hands to themselves. We ask for equality, yet go on a campaign when a man hits a woman, but remain silent when a woman hits a man. How does this make sense? LOL
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I agree with the comment above for how the idea evolved. I agree with this post completely. Both men and women are capable of inflicting emotional or physical abuse so both should be condemned for such! Well said!
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Sshh…you cannot say that in public. The PC-police are watching. LoL. Every person I have heard mentioned a similar thought, receives negative backlash. Apparently, women are akin to children in the eyes of the PC-nation, because they can do as they want and accept no accountability. This is weird, because even children must face repercussions for their actions. LoL.
If you say something to the contrary, you are vilified. If you are a woman who says, “women and men should not put their hands on each other,” or that, “if a woman hits a man, he has every right to defend himself,” you get a backlash worse than men. LOL. This world is weird. Everyone should keep their hands to themselves.
Hopefully no one reads this and completely misinterprets my thoughts, and conclude I believe in striking women. That is completely against the code of a gentleman’s lifestyle.
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Better delete my comment haha I feel like no one is ever going to hear from me again after today!
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It does seem rather unfair to deny men the right to defend themselves. That is kind of a basic human right. LOL, I don’t know how it is everywhere, but where I live men have always defended themselves, just in a much more restrained way. The fact that we would now arrest them for it, really does bother me.
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I hope people reading, will not assume we are promoting domestic violence against women. LOL. Just to be clear people, we do not think it is okay. I do not promote women hitting men, and I do not promote men hitting women. I also think men should be able to talk things out with other men. That is ideal of course, because we know people will always find gray areas.
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*Men, don’t assault anyone. Women, don’t assault anyone.
Hitting the same gender should be included, imho.
Besides that, another great post you’ve written!
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Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts. In an ideal world, people will always talk things out before striking someone. Within humanity, we will always have murderers, thieves, rapists, corrupt politicians, etc. These elements are part of life. I cannot change them, nor can anyone else. Bad behavior is simply part of who we are as humans.
Sadly, some are far more devious. A thief will continue to steal, regardless how many laws we have on the books denouncing theft. A rapist will continue to rape, regardless how many policies remain on the books, labeling the act illegal. Some people simply skate outside of the realms of legality/bad behavior, and are fully aware.
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I totally agree. It should go both ways. When did it become “ok” for a woman to hit a man but not vice versa?!
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I think historically, we remove accountability for their actions. whether it is slapping a man, keying his car, pouring drinks on his face, etc. These things are all acceptable behavior. Over time, since they go unchecked, the behavior becomes part of a societal norm. Both are wrong–men hitting women and women hitting men. But society only labels one wrong. This allows women to continue doing XYZ, not fearing repercussion and when a repercussion occurs, it emphasizes the wrongdoing of the other person…not her. LOL
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