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A good man is hard to find… Men are dogs; they only want one thing… All of my exes were jerks…
That is a rather controversial headline. However, now that my headline has your attention, keep in mind one thing: all ladies are women but not all women are ladies.
In my various encounters with some females, whether direct or indirect, I became aware of a clear theme in their sexual history—these individuals would be horrible Human Resource Managers.
As a disclaimer, I cannot speak for all women on earth. I do not know intimately, nor have I met, every single woman on earth.
The title represents my experience with some women, whether directly or indirectly. Therefore, this is merely my perspective and is not representative of all women in existence.
In our politically correct society, it is sad that I would need to write such a disclaimer. It should be self explanatory that I am not referring to all women.
Now, back to the topic at hand.
This will be first in a series where every so often, I will address through One Gentleman’s Perspective, women and their inability of taking accountability.
Why is this topic important? On numerous occasions, whenever I hear complaints about ex-boyfriends, ex-husbands and males in general, the blame is entirely on the males. Rarely does she own up to her faults.
Is a good man hard to find? I think not and here is one reason why: women sometimes refuse to see a partner best suited for them, because their attention is subconsciously or willfully fixated on someone who is not.
Can men behave and view attractive women, in a manner akin to dogs? Generally speaking yes, but here is why: if you dangle a treat in front of a dog that has not had their appetite satisfied, what are the chances of this dog refusing the offer? In my opinion, the answer is closer to zero percent.
In other words, if you lather yourself with honey and berries, do not question why there is a sleuth of grizzly bears converging on your campsite. I refuse to believe that all men are dogs, however, if you emit a certain energy, it will attract its counterpart.
Whenever I hear the complaint that all of the previous ex-boyfriends or husbands were jerks, one thing comes to mind:
You picked them all, so what exactly does this say about you?
Are you a poor decision maker, or can you simply be the victim of unscrupulous men that prey on bad decision makers?
Ladies, I am speaking to you, accountability is critical when it comes to your dating decisions. In fact, think of this from an Human Resource point of view.
If an HR Manager interviews and always hires poor performing employees, this HR Manager will not have a career for much longer.
To the company, the buck stops with this HRM. Think of your vagina, your heart, your time and decision-making method on whom to date, as a rigorous interview process.
Not every applicant is worth being hired, let alone a second interview.
Not every male you encounter deserves a spot in your bed, let alone a second date.
If you constantly encounter jerks, losers, lotharios, or any other group of negatively minded suitors—ask yourself, What is it about me that attracts these types of men?
Your vagina must fall in the realm of highly valuable and with things of worth, not all can attain. Your heart is not easily replaceable, so do not treat it as such.
Time is a commodity both priceless and worthless—you determine which side of the coin it falls. Do you believe every male you encounter is worth your time?
I presume that many of the males you encounter, are not worth your time. If that is the case, it does not seem logical to allow people complete access, where they gain things that are most precious to you.
A lady understands cause and effect. That means she is not only aware of her actions, she fully embraces accountability. A woman on the other hand may know causal nexus, but refuses to acknowledge personal responsibility.
It is time to embrace accountability. I once blamed women for my relationship woes. This denial allowed me to refuse accepting my faults in the matter.
However, that was the old me. The new me understands if I project X energy, it will attract X energy…not Y or Z.
Annette Harrison said:
OMG! It’s strange I would visit you today and find this post on accountability. At this moment in time, I’m dealing with my oldest son concerning his poor choices as a younger man.
He is faced with a dragon of an ex. And, trust me, I’m not calling her that because she is messing with my son but she is evil to the bone.
She had children by my son to secure her financial future. She thought by having kids by and for him she would be given the lifestyle my mother, his grandmother, afford him. And when that did not happened she became pissed.
She expected us to buy her children name brand clothing. She wanted to be the one living in my mother’s home rent free. She wanted to drive cars and have others to pay for them and their upkeep. She truly wanted what my son had but didn’t get!
Afterwards, she began going to my mother’s house and keying the cars. Cutting tires. Calling my son over and baiting him so he would loose his temper. Later calling the police and state he abused her. She would hit him knowing he would hit her back. I mean it has been all kinds of craziness with this woman. One year she dropped the kids off to visit on Christmas and never returned. My son called for a police escort and tried to take the kids back. She didn’t answer the door. So he was forced to become a responsible dad. And he STEPPED up to the plate.
I didn’t know the boy had it in him to be a dad! LOL’s. But he made me proud!
After the welfare mother heard that my son was seeking government assistance to help raise the kids she went to the welfare office and told them she was scared to retrieve her children. The judge brought her cock-eyed story and gave the kids back!
I, again, tried to tell my son how to fight the woman. He didn’t want to listen to me. He didn’t want extra problems. But today he got them. Each year she takes him back for child-support moderation. And each year they keep going up on his payments without regards to his other children. And, yes, I’m upset!
Because she didn’t want the kids. She wants financial security! And she told the last baby momma that! She said, “I’m going to keep my hands in his pockets.” And because of her messed up way of thinking that this family is a “cash cow” I’m changing my Will.
I’m taking her children and my oldest grand-daughter out of my Will. Therefore, the only grandchild that will inherit from my estate is my youngest grandson. Why? Because his mother has realized she and my son are both responsible for creating my grand-baby. After she tried to kill my son and almost lost her freedom she has moved on with life.
But my mother spoiled my son. And her continual giving without accountability made him rotten. And young women, now older, believed and still believes he comes from a rich family. So if their kids get they will get! Not going to happen if they’re counting on my dime. I’m taking a page from a rich man’s book. I’m leaving my children inheritance in a trust and they won’t get all I own. They will get enough to live on should they grow old and lack necessary funds to live. And that’s it!
One Gentleman said:
Good day. I am terribly sorry for this delay. Comments and likes get lost in the rush, so I tend to lose track of things. I will start off by saying our society today, treats women like children. She can say and do whatever she wants, with no accountability for her actions. They make excuses for everything she does, in the name of sexual liberation, “my body/my choice,” emotions, etc. When a woman murders her children–she must have been so emotionally overwhelmed. She needs mental help. When a man murders his child–that piece of animal turd is a danger and needs imprisonment right now. This is no joke. I have seen this reaction again and again. It sucks. We are both concerned how life will be, if we have a son. They have changed the way we view rape today. If a guy sneezes on a woman, that is rape (sarcasm of course). For certain colleges, he actually has to prove he is not guilty, versus them proving he is guilty. It’s scary. But I digress.
“He is faced with a dragon of an ex. And, trust me, I’m not calling her that because she is messing with my son but she is evil to the bone.” That was pretty funny. My mom would react in a similar manner. LOL. Your family is facing a financial opportunist, which many others encounter. It is such a horrible position to be in, but once again, her family would make excuses for her actions. “He should have used a condom, if he did not want to financially support her, etc.”
For the life of me, I cannot view the reaction of keying someone’s car as a logical decision. We accept this and say, “he did something to deserve this.” In no way shape or form am I condoning this, but if he pushed her away from keying the car, people would vilify him for “Assaulting” her. It’s insane that once again, there is no accountability for one’s actions. Does he have a restraining order? “The judge brought her cock-eyed story and gave the kids back!” Sadly, this is how our system works. Good people suffer and demons, well, they have it easy. I have said this time and time again, child support for a good portion of mothers, has absolutely nothing to do with supporting the child. This woman proves it yet again. The money is to “Stick it” to your son, and hurt as much as possible. When I bring this up with facts, people once again, get upset with me. I cannot understand why it is difficult to understand, that a person will do whatever to make you feel a comparable pain to theirs.
The trust will assist in transferring assets and avoid or at least, mitigate taxation. Estate planning is a great tool to allocate your assets, in order to limit the damage that comes with probate, taxation and greedy relatives.
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