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When we think of rape, males cannot present any other opinion on the topic besides…
Women are incapable of lying
or
Never question a claim of rape, because that is victim blaming.
On social media, the idea of a male leading the discussion is blasphemous, as if females own the patent on rape.
However, anything worth discussing is something we should all discuss whether male, female, heterosexual, homosexual, religious, etc.
For some time now, I had a desire to approach this topic, but was unsure how it would fit into my perspective. I believe I now have a way.
Young boys need guidance. That should go without saying. They need adult guidance in their understanding on what is right, and what is wrong. A gentleman learns his way, by first understanding who he is. Without this, they are lost.
Today, I am witnessing a disgusting culture arising, which tells young boys their very existence is an abomination and everything they do is wrong.
If you like playing with trucks as opposed to Barbie dolls, you are wrong and expressing toxic masculinity.
If a girl in class wears excessively tight pants and your eyes look in her direction, you are wrong because of your objectification and expressing toxic masculinity.
If you are both under the influence of alcohol and engage in what you logically conclude is consensual sex, you are an obvious rapist. Remember, a woman cannot consent under the influence.
Surprisingly, though the male is also under the influence, his mental state is irrelevant because all rapists are aware of their actions.
This brings us to today’s topic of males either wrongly convicted because of false allegations, or wrongly imprisoned and released decades later via DNA testing.
I presume this topic will rub some people the wrong way, but it would not be a hot button issue if it did not.
With that said, if there is anything that you disagree with and would like to voice your opinion, please read Part 1 and Part 2, which addresses the topic of disagreeing.
It should be self-evident, but I know I must present the obvious. Rape is a vicious crime—when it actually happens. I am not referring to the new definitions some like to add through their indoctrination.
A man is not a rapist because he asked you out for coffee
A man is not a rapist because he looks in your direction.
A man is not a rapist because you specifically gave consent, but a day or weeks later, changed your mind about your consent.
These are all real examples of what some are classifying as rape, which are spreading around like wildfire amongst this generation of young minds.
Remember, the new generation usually learns from the previous and if these messages are becoming the norm, I fear for them.
I know we only focus on the pain that rape victims go through, and addressing their pain is A-Okay in my book. To have someone infringe upon your body; something you have a right to…it is deplorable.
However, I do have a question for those redefining rape to mean anything and everything.
Do you even care what happens to males falsely accused? I have two reasons as to why you do not.
By your logic, women are incapable of lying. I can already sense a loss of future income, by me believing this statement is completely erroneous. Secondly, you fail to speak up whenever evidence proves a false accusation is well, false.
You campaign behind the accuser firmly; all the while, a man has his name dragged through the mud. However, when evidence reveals that she fabricated the entire situation, you disappear faster than a thief does in the night.
First up is a case that many will not have familiarity. However, this case speaks to me. It could happen to me, your son, husband, brother, best friend, etc. All it takes is a mere accusation.
His name is Brian Banks.
As a standout high school student and athlete, the future was bright for this rising star. With a verbal agreement to attend USC on a football scholarship, his bright future somehow became bleak.
Wanetta Gibson, a fellow student, said that he dragged her into a stairway at Polytechnic High School and raped her. In a flash, Banks found himself inside in a jail cell and charged with two counts of forcible rape and kidnapping.
He was kicked off the football team, expelled and that path to USC…yeah, that was no longer happening. His mother paid for his lawyer fees by selling her house and car.
DNA samples from the L.A. County Sheriff’s Office came back negative, but he was unable to make the bail of $1 million, so he waited behind bars for a year. Yes, he sat behind bars for a year…let that sink in.
Due to his size, age and race, his lawyer let him know that the chances of a fair trial were slim. That is awesome (sarcasm).
After all this time, I thought the justice system believed in innocent until proven guilty, and not young, Black and therefore not worthy of a fair trial.
You’re a big black teenager and they’re automatically
going to assume you are guilty and you’ll be facing
41 years to life.
What do you want to do?
This is the offer–good for now and not later.
It’s your decision and not your mom’s.
This is not about race. I must admit though, the message from his lawyers speak volumes about this supposed innocent until proven guilty.
One Gentleman's Perspective 
I am glad you posted this! I recently also posted about rape ( http://undiscoveredandexposed.wordpress.com/2014/11/28/peoples-ignorance/ ), and I think it’s important for people to talk about. It is a controversial topic, but it’s one that needs to be discussed from all perspectives. It’s true that society has taught men that everything they do is wrong, and never thought about it until I read this post. I think back to interactions with some guys I’ve had and they apologized for looking at me with “desire.” It was really odd, and now I get why they might have apologized.
I think any false rape accusation should have a punishment. It’s not right for someone to ruin someone’s name and get off with it if it was false.
Then again, I could see how it could deter real victims from coming forward. But overall a very nicely written post! I hope more people comment because this is a topic that should have people talking.
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Thank you for your time and response. Please excuse this delayed message. My most recent upload was almost two weeks ago. With that said, I felt it was necessary to address the topic of false accusation and imprisonment.
I address controversial topics because I believe existing discussions are usually absent of objectivity, or they simply refuse to approach the topic and go against popular opinion. I do not have those restraints. LoL.
The current theme is to approach the subject of masculinity and males in general, with a complete lack of objectivity. If I were a young boy watching several news reports or YouTube videos, without the presence of a guardian, I would conclude that everything about me is wrong. This year, I have listened to different news reports, YouTube videos and read blog articles, addressing boys are as if they are innately evil, and in need of changing.
But I digress. The accusation of rape is serious, and in my opinion, the false accuser upon further investigation should face fines and imprisonment. We cannot view females who maliciously accuse someone falsely, with actual victims. This is what I see others doing. It is a huge mistake to give the same support to false accusers, as someone who experiences the traumatic experience of rape. I have more posts to address this topic, because I think the subject is worth discussing openly.
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Such a powerful post and story! To be completely honest I had never really thought about the possibilities of a woman lying about being raped. I have heard of certain celebrity instances, but that never hit home.
Such an important message!
This certainly opened my eyes to believing that women aren’t always the victims. Great post! 🙂
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Please excuse this delayed message. I have not been active, since my last post nearly two weeks ago. I genuinely appreciate you taking the time to read this hot button issue, and then sharing your perspective. Thank you. In my opinion, a great number of people do not believe women lie about this.
I can understand, because it is a serious crime that has physical and emotional consequences. The human side of us cannot fathom someone fabricating on such a traumatic incident. Sadly, the reality is that it happens. Some groups like to say it does not exist, but that is because they have an agenda to uphold. To admit women lie about things like this will derail their agenda, and create holes in their fear mongering that rape is everywhere, occurring by all men and no female is safe–ever. Objective statistics prove that the 1:5, 1:4 and rape culture on college campuses are blatant lies. However, facts are irrelevant if the goal is to create panic and push an agenda.
Is there an epidemic of false accusations, thus actual rapes do not occur? This is an exaggeration, and unlike those pushing the faulty fear mongering rape statistics, I will not exaggerate. However, false accusations do occur–that is a fact. I do not want to undermine rape and I surely would not try. I simply want people to understand that yes, false accusations occur and we must not undermine the lives ruined by these false accusations. It seems in the midst of supporting real victims, they want to push an agenda so much, they begin supporting false accusers and completely forget those whom are falsely accused. Well, I will not forget.
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Amen!
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Reblogged this on Nette.
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Thank you for the reblog. I appreciate you sharing this message
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Thank you for discussing this topic and posting a real-life story here! It showed that what we heard is not always the truth and how unfair the system can be! I feel very sorry for Brain and those who might have a similar experience! 😦
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Thank you for reading and sharing your response. I encountered him on Facebook, so I hope to set up an interview to post on the blog. I have not suggested it yet, but I will when the time suits us.
It showed that what we heard is not always the truth and how unfair the system can be!
This is the main reason I decided to approach false accusations. Right now, if you observe popular bloggers and certain groups, they push this idea that when it comes to rape, women do not lie. I then read the different stories, such as this one by Banks and I feel the statement is exactly why people rush to believe and condemn online, solely by someone’s word alone. That is illogical and dangerous. To some, in order to push their agenda on the subject, they make up faulty statistics, which by the way many western governments blindly accept. When you view the subject objectively and create statistics, it completely destroys the agenda. Sadly, fear mongering is more accepted than facts.
When that happens, people like Banks continue ending up on the wrong side of the system. It is such a shame. Because of this, I will continue discussing this topic, even if only those viewing my page will understand that yes, false accusations do occur.
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You’re welcome Althon. I completely agree with you. There are lots of people like Banks and we need bloggers like you to discuss this topic in getting people to be aware of these issues.
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Is it any surprise when the presumption of innocence is suspended that the legal system is subverted? My personal opinion is that a lot of the false accusers are mentally ill (Crystal Mangum, anyone?) and giving them an overly credulous legal system is like handing a gun to a deranged individual.
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Please excuse this delay. My activity has diminished since the upload of this post. Nonetheless, I definitely agree with your assessment on the analogy of handing a loaded gun to a deranged individual. Fear mongering is the name of the game currently, and we must spread the message by any means necessary (faulty statistics, governmental agreement on said faulty statistics and continue spreading that women will never lie about this subject). I must admit…it is surely working. I give them that. Their fear mongering has seeped into academia and public opinion. Now, if any male decides to say “Yes, women are capable of lying about rape,” he becomes a misogynist. Such a shame.
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Really good post. These things weigh heavy on my heart, too. What we are doing to boys with these attitudes is just atrocious. We’re also doing significant harm to relationships between men and women.
The women being harmed by rape hysteria is something I can really see, too. Of course women lie, but then there are others who aren’t really “lying,” they’re confused, disoriented, in a state of mental collapse, and rather then being met by calm and reasonable people willing to help her sort it all out, she is preyed upon by feminists and a system with an agenda. So at her weakest point, she’s got people playing with her emotions and exploiting her for all she’s worth. That’s just cruel.
There’s a couple of teen age girls I know who were pretty much forced into disclosing sexual abuse by their fathers. Both guys went to jail and so began the process of trying to recant the charges. These girls are all grown now, their fathers were eventually released, but they are keenly aware of how they were used by the system to promote an agenda. It doesn’t take a whole lot to force a get a false statement out of someone and it’s especially easy if they’re very young or mentally fragile.
The Fem that did the Rolling Stone article that they are now trying to backtrack on is a good example of this. The alleged victims was obviously confused and in a state of collapse and rather then question her farther, try to help her process whatever was going on, they exploited her for all she was worth.
So reason number 5498 that feminism is actually really cruel to women…
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Sorry for this delay IB. I have not been active since this post was uploaded. I hope you have been well. I have a few more ideas on this topic, because it seems those falsely accused are like the ugly ducklings. No one wants to acknowledge them. This situation could just as easily happen to me. If I only show concern when it happens to someone I know or me, that seems wrong in my eyes. I have a concern now because people like to believe that all individuals with a criminal record, are actual criminals.
The fear mongering in my opinion, helps no one except the one creating the fear. It causes a state of panic for females, that are not based on real statistics, thus reality. I hear females (regardless of age) and read comments online saying, I have to walk in fear the moment I leave my home. Actually, you do not. As a male, I am about four times more likely than you to be a victim of a violent crime outside. My size/strength is irrelevant when someone has a gun to my face. This is the excuse they often use…well, you are stronger than me.
Fear mongering harms both males and females. The 1:5, 1:4 and the 1:2 that I just heard yesterday (WOWZERS), are not based on objective nor rational minded conclusions.
I heard of a few cases involving children forced into this. In fact, the most recent one was a video I watched on YouTube (Dr. Phil) last year. The grandmother forced the granddaughter to lie, which the mother then believed. The grandmother coached the granddaughter, which destroyed the marriage and excommunicated the father. Bloody awful woman she is. It all unraveled because the father finally received closure, when it was discovered on the show that it was the grandmother’s doing.
In the face of this agenda, only those pushing the agenda wins.
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I guess I’m rather ignorant to this being a HUGE issue, (not ignorant that it’s going on) because I have a great “love/interest” in all cultures, I love diversity, so I personally would not assume a “black” man was guilty. It ridiculous that people are being judged guilty because of race, age, religion, gender, or statistics.
I see evil in general as increasing every where, lying, cheating, stealing…robbing all that is innocent and full of hope. I’m sorry for this man, and unfortunately he’s not the only one. There’s men and women that are abusive liars and there are men and women that are full of hopes and dreams and want to make this world a brighter place and prevail in making it brighter for others and the future generations, and there are men and women who’s hopes and dreams are stolen, essentially stealing from others around them and future generations.
It’s humanity at it’s finest and at the most deplorable and it’s every where.
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The false accusations occurs across all racial groups. The sad reality is that they tell us that women will never lie about rape, when in reality, women are human. Humans lie, regardless of the situation. When did women become nonhuman? I have several cases to prove how ridiculous this idea is. If not for The Innocence Project, a number of people would have no hope of being exonerated. If there is a cause to donate, this is surely it.
We cannot only support actual rape victims, but turn a blind eye when males are falsely accused. It sucks to hear that women will never lie, when people like Banks serve years and decades behind bars, based solely on someone’s word. I am at a loss for words. We play God with people’s lives, based solely on someone’s word. This is not the Salem Witch Trials. Your word alone is not enough to condemn someone to death/imprisonment. I remain neutral whenever I hear rape accusations. Sadly, if you observe stories online, the male is guilty solely by someone’s word. Evidence is irrelevant, because with subjectivity, your word is enough.
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off the subject…thought this was a pretty awesome video…I didn’t know where else to post this.
And OBVIOUSLY in this post this young man did not even fit the “profile.”
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What made you share the video? I checked it out, but how did you come across it?
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facebook…my brother posted it actually.
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Right…I hear what you are saying…I would be neutral as well…because like I said you never know cause people do lie and people do heinous acts. Someone’s telling the truth in the situation and someone is lying…and yes both men and women lie. I guess my whole point is of my comment is out of humanity there are those WOMEN included that lie and there are people including MEN that tell the truth. 🙂 I’m no expert of the post. I read and give my two cents. I’m spreading Christmas Cheer adding to people’s Christmas funds…ha ha
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I just read another story last week, which I want to use on the blog. I am just not sure how to go about it. It is truly a shame how there is minimal news coverage on false accusation cases.
When someone accuses an individual of rape, those stories capture media attention. When a false accusation is revealed, all you hear are crickets. They refuse to touch these cases, with the same approach as the initial accusation. I am not an expert either…simply a spectator observing how the media and public approaches false accusations
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