They say there is no such thing as a stupid question.
Colin Powell, an American statesman and a retired four-star general in the United States Army, who served as the 65th United States Secretary of State once said…
There is no such thing as a stupid question, only stupid answers.
I can understand this concept because what person-X may know, can appear as foreign information to person-Y.
I have decided to apply this to my side of the blogosphere. I will answer a number of questions that I encounter across the different search engines.
For the social media architects and creators, who come every so often to my page and go full postal emotionally when they reply, if you would like to disagree with my perspective, please read Part 1 and Part 2, which addresses the topic of disagreeing online.
I consider them to be architects and creators, because every situation must suit exactly to their point of view, or else it is incorrect.
I am providing an answer in the only way that I can, through my perspective, along with a consensus from my peers that are sometimes older, younger or of the same age.
Up first is an interesting question. Do guys care about stretch marks?
Males generally speaking, do not set and enforce beauty standards. Do you know who sets beauty standards?
I know that goes against popular belief, especially with the provocateurs and their constant discussions of female objectification in mass media.
Take a step back, remove the emotions and analyze this critically. Do not have an allegiance to males or females. Align yourself to critical thinking.
When you enter a room, are males picking you apart from head to toe, or is it another female?
When you purchase a new sweater, is it a male judging its worthiness, or is it another female?
When you wear makeup, is it males assessing whether you applied it correctly or is it females? I am not speaking in one instance here and one instance there. Analyze this from a more widespread perspective.
Your enemy is not of the male persuasion. This goes against popular belief, but that belief is riddled in propaganda and fear mongering.
They want you to think insecurities occur because of males. However, when it comes to these insecurities and you choose to view the discussion in a more widespread perspective, you begin to notice the focus occurs from your female peers.
Do guys care about beauty? I would say males in general desire attractive females. However, do males pay attention to every single detail about beauty, in the manner females imagine?
I would say males in general desire attractive women, but not nearly to the degree females are led to believe, which fuels their insecurities. Is this an opinion? Of course, this is my opinion.
However, do your own research. Engage in a discussion with different males and ask if they care about the multi-billion dollar beauty industry, which you are a customer of, to the degree that you imagine he does.
Companies and magazines will fuel this drive on beauty, but they prey on your insecurities, which the average guy does not even notice.
Once again, do guys desire attractive females? Guys do not desire attractive females any more or any less, than their female counterparts will desire attractive males.
In other words, both males and females desire attractive people. A number of women believe beauty standards are driven by males, yet in reality, females are more of the ruling party with this topic.
Are there some guys critical of your imperfections? Similar to the statement above, no more or less than females on average, will be critical of the imperfections on males.
Your stretch marks are not important here. I understand where the stigma comes from to appear physically perfect, but males do not drive this theory. Guys do not look at potential partners and say…
Holy crap! She has stretch marks—NEXT!!!
Wait, what is this? Is this a stretch mark? Eww! Gross.
I like you a lot but it’s not you, it’s your stretch marks. I think we should see other people.
You’re extremely beautiful, but the stretch marks on your stomach and thighs are disgusting.
If you have this insecurity, please understand that it is not indicative of males. If you encounter this with a guy, keep in mind that he is not indicative of males, because once again, view this topic not from one-off instances.
Before someone can truly love you, where you are able to accept this love, you must first grasp what it means to love yourself first.
Insecurities are able to limit you from coming to terms with loving yourself. Beauty insecurities from my observation are caused by other females.
Guys do not care about stretch marks; especially to the degree you imagine that he considers you repulsive, because of having stretch marks.
This is my perspective. I would love to read yours. Do you think beauty insecurities, are created and enforced by females or males?