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As a blogger, my blog has an objective, as do most others. The focus is to highlight my perspective, on what it means to be a gentleman. However, there are times I will approach certain topics within popular culture, due to the number of brain cells I lose after becoming aware of the subjects’ existence.
I usually have blog posts created days, weeks and sometimes up to months in advance, but this was something I created on the fly, after coming across recent information.
Quite often actually, while reading or listening to a particular story, my wife will rub my back where she then says, It’s okay mahal ko…it’s okay babe.
In other words, she is jokingly consoling me, because she knows how much I believe that the lunatics are taking over the asylum.
They may appear sane on the surface, but it is logically improbable that a rational minded human being could think in such a way.
My wife gets me…she gets me so well, because at times when we read or listen to something together, we simultaneously say something along the lines of…
Are they serious?
Wait, they are joking, right?
You have to ask these questions, because you immediately conclude that the information is satirical. Sadly, it is not.
In this post, I will address yet another topic known as mansplaining. I am naive to a number of things, but browsing the Internet in the past year, has made me aware of the lunacy of many users online.
You can venture to certain corners of the Internet where the indoctrination is so strong, you would think all males across the globe were raping females five times each weekday, and 10 times on weekends.
You would think all males within the population wakes up, reads from the holy scriptures of Manism, consumes a cereal comprised of testosterone, checks their cages filled with female slaves and retrieve their privilege badges, before exiting their living quarters to spread the gospel of misogyny.
This is where you find such things like mansplaining.
When people refuse to acknowledge sound judgment, logic and simple methods of deducing a rational explanation based on evidence, we must always question the programming they are trying to spread.
What is mansplaining?
Though this is a new concept, if we go by past instances of words created by online provocateurs, mansplaining will simply evolve into meaning whatever its user feels during a given moment.
Nonetheless, I searched and the best definition so far is a behavior that occurs on a sidewalk, refusing to yield to a fellow pedestrian, such that a collision inevitably ensues.
In other words, it is the sidewalk M.O. of men who remain apparently oblivious to the personal space of those around them. It is (usually) done by men, (usually) at the expense of women. It is (usually) done unconsciously.
In our neighborhood, some of the drivers are quite rude to be honest. Everyone always seems to be in a rush, because after all, each person is a Prime Minister. Well, that is how they behave. Their time is so valuable on the road; everyone else must yield in their presence.
Walking is no different. In fact, whenever my wife and I are out strolling, we often discuss the decline of human decency.
In my mind, due to the upbringing of my family, we give way to others in public, especially if they are holding bags, walking with a small child, a couple holding hands side-by-side, etc.
In short, you do not own the public space…it belongs to everyone, therefore, step aside a bit to allow others to also share said public space.
It is a natural reaction for me. Whether you are young, old, male, female or an animal…if I can step aside to give you space, I will.
However, when you are absent of this thing called human decency and manners, you do not think in this manner.
With this person, whether male or female, when they are walking in your direction, they refuse to step aside. Some will even bump into you and continue onward, or pass it off as if you are at fault
I mean, after all, they are all Prime Ministers, and as top government officials, other people are simply not there. You can just walk right through them…no need to step aside.
Let me tell you guys a little secret, because the provocateurs do not want you to know this.
Guess who performs this I own the public space, therefore, I am under no obligation to step aside for you, the most in our location. Is it males perhaps? In our location, the culprits are of the female persuasion, especially elderly women.
Will you ever hear a rational minded person like me say #KillAllWomen, #FemaleSplaining or #KillAllElderly?
Since I am not a provocateur, I would not. Instead, I prefer to approach topics logically, before latching onto buzzwords to capture social media attention.
This boils down to manners and basic human decency. It is not because females feel they own public spaces. It is not because the elderly feel they own public spaces. It is not because males feel they own public spaces.
It is because some people refuse to hold firm to human decency. However, as a provocateur, I can simply chalk this up as a masculinity problem—not poor manners.
I do not care if you are male, female, Christian, Buddhist, poor, wealthy, etc…I will provide you with the same degree of decency, and step aside if I notice you waking in my direction, and there is not enough space on your side.
If I accidentally bump into someone, I would say…
My apologies ma’am.
My apologies sir.
However, your website will not experience an uptick in traffic, by creating a headline concerning the decline of human decency.
Do you know what will?
By making the issue a male specific problem, you will cause viewers to swarm, like sharks to a pool of blood in the water.
To be quite honest, I am totally against these male versus female attention grabbing articles, and social experiments playing out online, which then evolves into public policy. I usually remove my emotions from writing, but these individuals are agenda-peddlers.
By that, they’ll push intentionally divisive content. Right now, it is popular to say masculinity is toxic and males are the problem regardless of the issue.
If your washing machine stops working a day after your warranty expires, blame the entire male population. After all, a man, James King, patented the first hand powered washing machine.
If your electricity goes out during a nationwide blackout, it is the fault of males. After all, a man “discovered” electricity.
If your order at a fast food restaurant does not meet the standards, which you saw in a television commercial, blame men. After all, the voice over actor is male.
Emotions and sarcasm aside, when people refuse to point out the lunacy playing out before their very eyes, you indirectly provide insanity a platform to appear sane.
When we refuse to say…
Wait minute now. Political views aside, religious views aside, and regardless if I have a buddy (penis) or kitty (vagina), what you want me to believe defies critical thinking/sound reasoning.
It validates the message of these provocateurs.
Whenever you encounter these irrational topics, do not have an allegiance to your sexual organs, religion, political views, ethnic group, etc. Instead, align yourself to sound reasoning.
If the person in question is spreading a message absent of this, first reject their propaganda and then logically refute their message into oblivion.
The world, which they are trying to create is a terrible one. Since that’s the case, none of us should yearn to be residents.
This is my perspective on the popularity of trying to paint every action by males, as being toxic and the root cause of issues within society.
Do you think mansplaining is based on sound reasoning? Do you think this is a male problem, or one rooted in the absence of human decency?
In the walking space wars the worst offenders here are female. I’m beginning to think it’s a personal power thing for them and like you said they’ve left off manners entirely.
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Good day. I hope this week has been well. Pardon the delay, but I’ve been absent for several weeks. Thank you for checking out this post. These posts tend to rub people the wrong way, because I’m calling out the provocation embedded in the subject.
If I encountered the topic of manslamming before 2014, I would’ve chalked it up as humor. Sadly, in 2014 and onward, these moronic topics are not based on humor. The creators of these terms, write about them with a serious tone.
The idea that this is supposedly males spreading their dominance is laughable. It falls in line with yet again, using indoctrination as opposed to common sense. The issue is not male or female specific…it is a lack of human decency, because people from different walks of life commit the act. However, manslamming captures more attention.
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Timed perfectly with my post today
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Being from an area where very few do much actual walking, I don’t able to comment on manslamming directly. Being in a male predominated, highly competitive field it is very easy to become upset about the injustices I feel as a woman. It is honestly a struggle to keep that in check sometimes. 🙂
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Good day. I hope you and the family have been splendid the past few weeks. Excuse my delayed response, but I’ve been absent from blogging for several weeks. I appreciate you reading and responding to this topic. Whenever I address these particular issues, they tend to rub people the wrong way.
In the present culture, especially due to how things spread rapidly on social media, the popular subjects involve male vs female and Black vs White. To be blunt, I find them incredibly disgusting.
The moment I heard about manslamming, a part of me died. LoL. I thought, “Is there no end to their lunacy?” Well, supposedly not because I’ve read news stories lately, causing me to question the sanity of humanity as a whole. In all seriousness, this issue has nothing to do with sexual orientation, sex, etc. It is a lack of human decency and basic manners. Thank you again
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“My apologies, ma’am.”
Does your misogynistic microagression know no bounds?!?
In all seriousness, this is identity politics with big eff Feminists trying to wrest power for themselves away from a citizenry who are more afraid of appearing sexist (or racist, homophobic, islamophobic, etc) than they are of losing their basic freedoms. They are relying on us being cowed rather than standing up for ourselves, for civil public discourse, and for common sense.
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Please excuse this delayed response. I was absent from blogging for a few weeks. Thanks for checking out this topic, because as misogynistic rape apologists, you know we have to stick together.
By the way, in regard to our nightly male privileged meeting, it has been moved to Thursdays. LoL.
You touched on the lunacy quite well. People who fall under what I consider provocateurs, dislike rational rebuttals. In order words, their arguments do not have a leg to stand on, when someone uses critical thinking to deconstruct their position.
Therefore, they resort to what I consider discussion-enders, which are tactics used to silence opposing point of views. It involves name calling (rape apologists, misogynistic, sockpuppet, racists, etc). The one I love the most is calling your position a form of harassment. LoL.
They live in echo chambers, where only one position bounces back and forth against the wall, and all those inside this chamber, regurgitate the same nonsensical babble with misleading statistics and feelings.
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Thanks for the schedule update. I was wondering where everyone was.
The thing about discussion-enders is they only work as long as we allow them to work. There is no real reason why an unsubstantiated claim should end discussion except that we as a society allow it to out of fear of appearing bad.
It’s bullying, plain and simple. They effectively bullied their way to supremacy in academia and then social media. Now they’re trying to go mainstream with politics, the legal system, and even the subways and sidewalks (manspreading and manslamming).
What’s sad is they will probably win, at least for a time. We’ve become so afraid of the spectre of klansmen and wife-beaters, that we’ve elevated anything even hinting at those things far above any other evil in society. That fear is what shuts down thought and discussion, and it is that irrational fear that should be truly frightening to any free society.
Sorry I got a little long winded there, but obviously this is a hot button issue with me. Thank you for addressing it in an mature, thoughtful manner.
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“The thing about discussion-enders is they only work as long as we allow them to work.”
This is why I’ve become so aware of their existence, because I see them so often, thus the reason it is incredibly easy for me to know how to react. They use the tactics because they know you will now defend against the label, taking your attention away from the point you were previously trying to make.
I created a post addressing these discussion-enders, and other logical fallacies people often use, where they hope to discredit your perspective.
One of the most used reactions I see online, when someone questions the validity of nonsensical arguments/statistics involving manslamming, catcalls or rape, is this notion that, “You have no say in this discussion because as a male, you cannot begin to understand issues that women talk about.”
I use logic to support my position, so throwing words like racism, sexism, misogynistic or any other emotional rebuttal, will fall flat. I address the argument–not your silencing tactics. Provocateurs are not used to this. They expect you to become upset and become distracted.
“Now they’re trying to go mainstream with politics, the legal system, and even the subways and sidewalks (manspreading and manslamming).”
You are correct. I’ve noticed certain propaganda making its way into public policies and academic. It is bloody disgusting. The faulty/misleading statistics or the notion that if you say something often enough, even if it’s a lie, it will become the truth, etc.
“It’s bullying, plain and simple.”
You hit the target perfectly. In their thoughts, it is voicing an opinion. Yet, if someone were to apply the same tactics towards them, it becomes harassment. The hypocrisy is quite strong with these people, which is why I will always point them out in blog posts. No need to apologize. If we cannot address the lunacy openly, they win.
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Wow I never such a term existed and how much of a victim I am of it lol. I have been (and I’m not sure if this is the politically correct term of saying it but), I have been “manslammed” many times and all by men and elderly people. I be walking to work where the pavement space is very small. The offenders are speeding right at me not acknowledging the tiny space, it gets the point where I’m literally slammed against the wall! I guess everyone is just so busy and caught up in their own lives, their own, their presence, their own concerns that common decency is getting rarer each day.
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Good day and thank you for checking out this post. Please excuse my delay in responding. My absence from blogging has been several weeks.
The term is simply another irrational position, which is to shame males for being males. Though manslamming makes absolutely no logical sense, the people who actually agree with shaming males, are not interested in deducing the issue with logic and reason.
A woman who is against this rhetoric of painting males as evil and females as good, conducted her own experiment on the news in the US. Her video showed far more women bumping into her. What was her conclusion? It was the same as mine–lack of human decency and basic manners. It is not male or female specific. It is related to manners.
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Well well well…let me just give a little comment here 🙂 2 cents worth of my opinion!
a man’s chivalry and a woman’s generous courtesy go hand in hand…plenty of rude and entitled women out there as there are rude clueless men…a woman has no rights over a man…neither a man over a woman.
Can’t we all just get along and just be courteous to each other?
No of course not…because we love to shift blame and walk in entitlement.
eg.”I deserve this, I deserve that” Instead of accepting responsibility.
There is a huge problem with BOTH genders accepting responsibility.
Oh and now here it comes… my very own personal opinion…take caution…ready aim fire! What’s a comment with out personal application…what is there to be learned?
For me it’s hard not to hate people in general, it’s a love hate thing called paranoia BUT that is MY PROBLEM! Not his or her problem…lol…regardless, I want to be courteous…it makes me feel good to notice someone else and move aside or hold a door for the man (and yes that would be my husband, I haven’t gone off the cliff yet) pushing my child in the stroller…help an elderly woman carry her groceries…etc. it doesn’t matter what you “think” of people… Be the change you want to see! That’s my personal challenge…hope I understood your post…you know I’m ADD and sometimes don’t get it…and need to drink more coffee, but there you have it!
P.S. A Thank you comes to a man…don’t look shocked I’ll repeat myself…yes I said a man!…In honor of Martin Luther King Jr. day… I am thankful …What HE did for this country is worth separating a day out and celebrating, HIS legacy continues to influence our nation and may we continue on with the legacy HE left for us…combating racial inequality through nonviolence!
The End 🙂
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Good day. I hope your week is coming along well. Pardon my delay in responding. I’ve been absent in the blogosphere for several weeks. Thank you for checking out this post, and thank you for taking a moment to share you insight.
The topic of manslamming is simply another spin on this “males are a problem up in society” rhetoric, which has gained steam over the past few years. I give thanks for this issue to several lunatics on Tumblr, YouTube, Twitter and other social media platforms.
They mask it under the guise of supposed equality, but the objective is simply to shame males into hating everything about being male.
When you apply critical thinking to their argument, such as manslamming, you are able to deduce that the issue is unrelated to a person being male or female. It comes back to human decency and a lack of manners. However, in this culture of “everything wrong with society is because of males,” the application of critical thinking and logic are not necessary.
I long for the day where this male vs female, and Black vs White rhetoric will come to an end. I detest both of them.
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