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Women and girls, you are not victims. Instead of this sense of victim conditioning, you should instead learn to have mental fortitude, resolve and personal responsibility. Through One Gentleman’s Perspective, I will ask of one favor.
What is this particular favor?
Please, put down the indoctrinated Kool-Aid that provocateurs are shipping to your homes, splashing in your favorite television shows, magazines and favorite websites.
You are far more capable, than you could ever imagine. You are not an android requiring daily fueling of data, in order to fulfill your duties. You are not a child, who is in need of parental guidance telling you what to think, how to feel, what to say, etc.
You are a person, with the ability to make decisions on your own, without feeling your allegiance should rest in the hands of one regurgitated message, where it seems your viewpoints all coincide with one another.
Your sentences should not begin, where the thoughts of another will end.
In other words, you are your own person. You do not need membership in a gang, which says you must follow blindly everything this gang thinks, and object other viewpoints that may logically attempt to discredit, the groupthink perspective of said gang.
You are not a victim. You are an individual with resolve. You are an individual who believes in personal responsibility, even when this gang teaches you that the responsibility should rest in the hands of everyone else—politicians, men, etc.
You are capable of taking care of yourself. You are capable of making choices, which are beneficial for your well-being, and you are 100 percent capable of owning the results of the choices you make.
You are not a victim. Please, do not let these provocateurs convince you otherwise.
You are not a delicate flower that blows in the wind. You are not an infant in need of constant adult supervision, based on this idea that you are incapable of handling your own business.
You are not a victim. You can do anything. Do not let them encourage you to find fault in men, merely for being men. Do not let them dictate a message, which says that a gentleman’s gesture of holding the door is somehow a form of oppression.
I beg of you…do not let them classify you as a victim. If others choose to reside in this victimhood culture, that is their business. However, with you, do not fall for the programming.
You may not be able to have it all as you desire, but like anyone else, you can be anything you desire…
Computer programmer
Physicist
Anesthesiologist
Educator
Marketing analyst
Stock broker
Mother
You are not a victim. Never, ever, let them tell you otherwise.
However, this is my perspective. I want to know what you think. Are women and girls objects, incapable of making their own decisions because of male dominance? Do you think this culture of promoting victimhood; will benefit young girls and women in the end?
One Gentleman's Perspective 
Ah, what a kind and empowering message. It’s true, girls are amazing! We do them a grave disservice by telling them that they are victims and that men hate them. Those two concepts are false and actually a form of bigotry, certainly towards men, but women also begin to internalize those messages and eventually will perceive the world and themselves that way.
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Wonderful message IB. It is a form of bigotry against both sides, now that I think about it. It helps no one in reality. In other words, it does not help males, and it surely does not help females either. We have to look no further than the Internet, where some of the female users will say the most indoctrinated rebuttals, whenever an article/video speaks against the programming. “I don’t have the right to feel safe whenever I leave the house.”
Actually, you do have that personal right, but feeling safe isn’t a legal right. Your sense of paranoia is not governed by the courts. In other words, feeling safe or unsafe when you exit your home begins from within. If you are in constant fear, especially if it is not representative of the crime reality in your neighborhood, you must dig deep within to find the source of this fear mongering. The world is not out to get you, regardless how much someone tries to drill this message into your ear.
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I agree, we are not victims, we are also not “over-comers” or “survivors” or any of those other fake “heroin bullsheet” tags they try to hang on us. I suppose I should rephrase those we’s to me’s and I’s because I don’t attempt to speak for all those who share my gender. I am simply me, striving to leave my little corner of the world a bit nicer when I leave than it was when I arrived just like every other decent human being I know.
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It’s a breath of fresh air, to read women and girls going against this victimhood message. Going through the Internet saddens me. LoL. Some of the things I read are downright cult-like. I honestly was not aware of this until last year, and this was all due to the Internet. It taught me that some people will embrace a belief so easily, simply because it makes them feel they belong.
Some people prefer thinking as a group, which makes the indoctrination easier. It is truly saddening, the more I think about it. They are raising a group of people to forever remain in a state of victimhood.
How could that possibly be helpful?
“I agree, we are not victims, we are also not “over-comers” or “survivors” or any of those other fake “heroin bullsheet” tags they try to hang on us.”
I like this…I like this concept greatly. It seems like a contest of sorts now, as to whose story of tragedy is more tragic. It creates a groupthink sense of camaraderie at times. “Oh, you were catcalled by 10 guys today. Well, I was catcalled 35 times, and I was groped three times.”
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My story, when told as it happened, is more than most can stomach reading or hearing about. No one wants to believe such things happen in this country, to our children and teens. I speak as one who has lived through the worst there is of this world. I view the bad things that happened as simple bumps along the way of life, everyone has bumps and I think we do best to get up dust ourselves off and keep on living.
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From a young age, I was taught to understand this world is made up of many things, and sometimes, those things represent the absolute worst of humanity. It did not cause me to fear humanity, nor did it cause me to walk with a sense of paranoia. Instead, it made me aware that some among us are depraved, deceitful, etc. This realization keeps me conscious of my surroundings, but it also makes me appreciate when I do encounter people who are the complete opposite. With the bad, it allows me never to take for granted the good.
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The bad makes the good shine brighter
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You are 100 percent correct. This is something my parents taught me, and I am quite grateful for the lesson
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Often put on a pedestal, merely to be overpowered.
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That is a great interpretation honestly. The victimhood position is now considered a badge of honor. Whenever something tragic does occur, on the outside they are applauded and given another badge, which highlights their victim position. On the inside however, I would say they are withering away, due to their lack of ownership over their own state of mind.
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So very true.
Allow me to share this post with you:
https://ashokbhatia.wordpress.com/2014/08/01/to-all-ye-ogling-males
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A few months back I was at a conference, and one of our keynote speakers was a lady who speaks on patterns, change and how your brain works. Great speaker, and fascinating stuff.
At one point in time she looked around the room and asked why their weren’t more women in the room (the breakdown was probably 90%+ male). Then she went into a theory that the way girls are raised is actually detrimental to their development.
She talked about how at a young age, often people want their daughters to be their little princesses. There is this belief that girls should be kind, and sweet. If a girl does something naughty, it’s frowned upon. For little boys? Well, boys will be boys.
Girls are taught more to conform to roles than boys. They are taught that everything must be perfect. There is a focus more on the result, and how things appear than the process of learning.
This is believed to have significant impacts. Women are three times as likely as men to be diagnosed for things like depression and anxiety disorders (of course, part of that may be because they actually go see their doctors instead of ignoring things).
Women tend to have MANY more issues with self esteem and body image than men. Again, there’s a very large social component to this.
The speaker related a lot of this back to differences in mindset that result from the way girls are raised.
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I’m not a parent yet, but from what I see with other fathers who have daughters, they view them as their “baby girl/princess.” However, they don’t strip their daughters of ownership, which they should and must have over their own well-being. They may see them as their “princess,” but infuse lessons where she removes a sense of naïveté when it comes to the world and relationships.
If I have a daughter, she will be my “baby girl/princess,” but with my background in the male/female relationship involving accountability and communication, she will receive a sensible approach on conducting herself. What she does as an adult is out of my control, but I would conclude that my values on accountability, communication, determination and integrity, will remain etched to her entire being, even when she is no longer in our presence and living under our roof.
When you instead coddle a child, as if the world is out to get them at every turn, this is one way of pushing them into a state of victimhood, where they are incapable of functioning professionally and personally. I believe in delivering a sense of ownership for one’s choices, but also the consequences of the decision we make.
I classify the body image issue under this lack of ownership. When you leave her to gather her self-esteem from the world, as opposed to from within, you are sending her on a roller coaster ride that will never end. She will forever find something about herself, which is not enough. For a parent to strip their children of ownership, well, that child will develop with an unbalanced perception of the world–in my opinion. The world is not out to get you, but it is not out to deliver sunshine and rainbows either.
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Great post! Too often we women hear how helpless and oppressed we are, how likely we are to be assaulted and blah, blah, blah. I’m not belittling the true suffering some women go through and yes they are some victims of violence and sexism but for the most part, we have it pretty good here in the West (America for me).
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Thank you much for stopping by, and venturing to my side of the blogosphere. I appreciate the positive sentiment.
The current message of undermining the accountability of women and girls, seems to be spreading quite a bit on social media. I read often about the oppression of Western women, such as guys wearing shirts with women in bikinis, guys sitting a certain way on subway trains, or bumping into women while walking.
I then think, “Interesting…well, I guess they changed the definition of oppression, if such things are oppressive.” All three examples above could receive a logical explanation, but it is far easier to push this oppressive language, and adjust the conversation to appear as another example of men oppressing women. I think the “oppressed” Western women should switch places with their counterparts in other regions, where they can receive an example of their oppression.
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Reblogged this on KnightHearth and commented:
Very well said!
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Thank you kindly for the reblog, the positive words, and thank you for taking a moment to read the post. It’s wonderful to see others rejecting this victim label, as opposed to embracing it with open arms. Than you again.
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“with you, do not fall for the programming.” And then you list “Computer programming,” first in the list.
But yeah, don’t be a victim, ladies. Stand up for your beliefs and strengths.
Awesome GIF.
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Thank you for reading the post, and providing your response. The GIF immediately connected, the moment I thought of the theme within the post.
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Hey I nominated you for one lovely blog hop! You don’t have to do it, but if you want to, there are details in my last blog post!
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It is a pleasure having you nominate me. I truly hope you have been well. I will review the blog hop, because I have absolutely no idea what it is. LoL.
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Reblogged this on simplinspiration and commented:
A powerful message to all the daughters, sisters and mothers of the world. Well said, One Gentleman. Well said.
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Thank you sincerely for reviewing this post, but also sharing it. It’s a message that I find lacking, within this culture of forcing and uplifting victimhood.
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