Why do men continue to cheat; chase skirts or allow themselves to be vulnerable enough in the presence of women, like a gazelle slowing down mid-chase, during a leopard’s pursuit? Why do men continue to cheat, arrive home, kiss you goodnight and wash away remnants of their most recent rendezvous, as if the day’s events did not occur?
As mentioned in the previous piece, the answer to this topic is simply my perspective and therefore, an opinion. This may not relate to your specific experience with infidelity, but for someone, it may apply to your life or someone you hold dear.
A psychologist will provide a number of reasons, as to why men cheat…
Men have an insatiable desire to have sex
- Men always desire new encounters
- Men like the challenge of pursuing and of course, being pursued
There are a number of reasons as to why men cheat, and to list them all would take away from the purpose of this post.
However, through One Gentleman’s Perspective, I want to approach things differently with this topic. I will do my best to connect why he cheats, but also why he comes back to his long-term relationship.
Why do men cheat, yet always come back to his long-term partner?
It is obvious that men cheat because they love sex. Am I right? I obviously unlocked the answer to a secret, which many are not aware. Sarcasm aside, as simple as men appear; sex is not the end-all and be-all, in the way that we think or find peace. Yes, there are men who only desire sex from women.
It does not take a nuclear physicist to understand this. However, if you think that sex is the only thing that a woman must bring to table, in order to fulfill a man—you are sadly mistaken.
I will first address three of the most discussed reasons that men cheat, which you will find in the list above.
1When it comes to sex, his appetite is insatiable. This idea is wrong on about ten billion levels. I do not find fault in this idea of men enjoying sex…not-at-all. However, I take issue when people often attribute infidelity, with an insatiable appetite.
I love sex. Sex to me is not merely a physical act of insertion. Sex is akin to an art form, where many have the ability to utilize a pen, pencil or paintbrush, to create art.
However, simply using a tool to create art does not make you an artist. More importantly, as much as I enjoy sex, it will NEVER happen with anyone besides my wife.
With this explanation out of the way, a man can enjoy sex with his partner, without ever seeking sexual gratification from another woman.
Why does a man with a healthy appetite for sex, choose to refrain from having sex outside of his relationship? This in my opinion, is the real question.
2Men desire something new, which means they will always seek out a new partner. In fact, there is a saying and please excuse my French, the only thing better than pu*** is new pu***.
There are a number of variations to this concept, but the theme is this: men always desire something new. This belief was always weird to me, because I am sure women desire a sense of newness as well.
Nonetheless, how many people do you know enjoy complacency and boredom in the sexual arena? How many individuals actually enjoy waking up each day, and working a boring job? We all want to keep things fresh in our relationship.
In fact, sex is one area that should not become unexciting. To say that men desire something new is bollocks as well—it goes deeper than that. There are several ways to keep things fresh within your relationship, such as role-playing, through spontaneity, emotionally stimulating her thoughts, etc.
3Men seem to enjoy pursuing women, but they also admire a woman’s pursuit. The ego plays a critical role here. If you are no longer on the market, you may want to know if people besides your partner, still find you attractive. I can understand why this is a reason, which many relationship experts and psychologists provide, as to why men cheat.
However, the ego alone cannot make you do bad things. Yes, you may experience positive energy, when someone in the office flirts. Yes, it can feel cool when girls are fawning over you at the beach, as you remove your shirt.
Attention can be a good thing, but it is also very dangerous. Too much can cause you to make poor judgments.
Several years ago, during the midpoint stage of my fitness journey, I received countless comments from strangers and friends. The comments were great to hear and yet humbling.
However, the one person whose comments about my progression meant the world—that was my brother. I could receive accolades from Arnold Schwarzenegger himself, and a number of fitness models, but the reaction from my brother trumps them all.
His opinion simply held more significance, in comparison to others. What is my point? The positive energy a man receives at home, can and should undermine the pursuit of other women. The third reasoning is bollocks—it goes deeper than his ego.